WHAT ABOUT MY KIDS?

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Sorry to bother you But my ex husband is not catholic but intends to marry a catholic woman and he says he needs to annull our marrige. Can he anull it not being catholic? and if so WHAT About our children?Oh sorry I was married 2 times before him and he and I married 2 times also. Can you please tell me if Our Children will be dammed to hell since it is knowlege that in the catholic Church that They r born out of wedlock like I commited adultry:( I am not catholic and neither was or is my EX husband. Thank you Candace Newman

-- CANDACE JEANETTE NEWMAN (muhammad616@yahoo.com), November 09, 2004

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-- (bump@bump.bump), November 10, 2004.

candace,

Sorry to bother you

its no bother, explaining catholic doctrine and function is what this forum was designed for. Your respectful questions are most welcome here.

he says he needs to annull our marrige.

well, thats sort of a misnomer. he's not "getting your marraige annulled," so much as he is actually applying for review to recieve a declaration of nullity. you see, marraiges are permanent and no man can disolve them. a declaration of nullity does not disolve a marraige, it is a declaration that a valid marraige never existed in the first place.

Can he anull it not being catholic?

he can recieve a declaration of nullity as a non catholic, and he MUST if he wishes to marry a catholic and have a catholic ceremony. Consequently, he will also need to have any previous marraiges annulled as well, in case he married someone else before you.

and if so WHAT About our children?

may parents are divorced. my dad got a declaration of nullity and remarried. that bothered me for a long time. the best way that i heard it described was by Paul M, who told me that the fact that presumption of marraige gives legitimacy (although in more accurate terms)... this means your children are still legitimate.

Oh sorry I was married 2 times before him and he and I married 2 times also.

because you were married before, and especially if he was married before your marraige with him, then he is very likely to recieve a declaration of nullity. because the catholic church does not recognize divorce, in this case you will, if you havent had the previous marraiges declared null, still be considered as being married to your original husband, making this new marraige not valid.

Can you please tell me if Our Children will be dammed to hell since it is knowlege that in the catholic Church that They r born out of wedlock like I commited adultry:(

no, this will have no effect on the moral wellness of your children. they may take it psychologically hard, but they will not be damned because of it. as i already explained, the understanding on both of your parts that you thought you were in a valid marraige legitimizes your children.

I am not catholic and neither was or is my EX husband.

too bad, you should consider it ;)

God Bless,

-- paul h (dontSendMeMail@notAnAddress.com), November 10, 2004.


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