Hi everyone, I am desperately in need of a prayer. I fell deeply in love with this woman and I just can't seem to let go of the memories and the emotions. I'm not sure if you believe in signs but the honest truth is that even before we started dating and to this day almost, we have recieved countless signs telling us that we are meant for eachother. She has become the love of my life and no one has ever come close to making me feel so complete - except the Lord of course. Because of this, and how I truely believe she is the one for me, I can't let go of my feelings. Over the past several months, these feelings have in turn caused me so much depression that I have almost commited suicide, cut myself, eating became a chore, doing exceptionally poorly in school, lost all sense of self, and have become so unbelievably low - emotionally, psychologically and physically. I am very much in need of some prayers from anyone... I have never experienced such pain in my life. It's unlike me to have so much difficulty of letting go of a relationship for so long. I have complete faith in the Lord knowing that He will always watch over me and He has proven that to me on several occasions when I needed Him, but simultaneously, if I keep going through so much pain, I don't know if I'll be here much longer. Please help me fight my demons through your prayer and ask the Lord if He will allow me to have this girl back or if not, ask Him to PLEASE let me let go. Please pray that God will have mercy on me and that I will find my peace - SOON. These feelings are dragging me down into such darkened depths that I dare not tread. I need the Lord to reach down and pull me back up. Thank you for your compassion. God bless.

-- Josh Chou (Krayzied_Dawgie@yahoo.com), November 06, 2004

Answers

hi i know how u feel i've been also through these kind of things but if u really think this girl is the one for u,don't let her go do what u can to get her back try to see the things that made u two split up and try to fix that and make her love u again try at least to stay in contact with her for the beginning God can give u strengh,but he can't do everything for u and try to believe in urself even if u're failing and fuck suicide! that's so stupid a permanent solution for a temporary problem... sometimes we learn the best lessons through most awful things everything happens for a reason u just need to find ur way through

greetz,n8n

-- nathan de winter (de_nathan_winter@msn.com), November 06, 2004.

Josh,

I pray for you. Try not to worry, and trust in the Lord. Let Him choose for you and let Him work in your life. You will not be disappointed.

-- Andy S ("ask3332004@yahoo.com"), November 06, 2004.

Josh, the Lord has your best interests in mind, so pray for His guidance and stick to God's plan. God will not fail you. I will pray for you. Offer up your sufferings as prayers to God.

God bless you.

-- Emily ("jesusfollower7@yahoo.com), November 06, 2004.

josh,

i want you to take a deep breath. done yet? okay, exhale. I want you to think about something very important: i want you to think about who YOU are. not who you are meant to be with, not what you do in school, not what you want to be when you grow up. I want you to think of statements like "my favorite hobby is..." or "i like to..."

Good, now. heres why i want you to take time to think about yourself. healthy and fulfilling relationships, ones where we find the one we are "meant to be with" as you say, are relationships that bring us growth and harmony. what you have with this girl seems to me to be an unhealthy dependancy which is harmful to yourself. I'm going to say this and I want you to strongly consider it despite the emotive response that you have for this girl: I seriously doubt that she is the one for you.

What i think would be best for you would be to take some time, take a vow of "singleness" for a month where you restrict yourself from pursuing any women, even this one. Go and find yourself before you try to find someone else. Look at it this way, if you truly love someone, its not that they complete you... then you are only giving them a half a person. What you do is you find yourself, find your strength and your values. then when you start dating, its not about needing someone but rather WANTING that person to be around. You avoid the feelings you are having right now, because ultimately you realize that YOU are what matters to yourself. wouldnt you rather give the person you love a whole person, than a broken half?

Josh, you'll be okay. pray. pray. pray. Take time to yourself and get to know the second most important person in your life (Christ being the first)... afterall, when it comes down to it, theres only one person who isnt ever going to be around you, and thats yourself.

-- paul h (dontSendMeMail@notAnAddress.com), November 06, 2004.

correction: theres only one person who isnt ever going to be around you

should read theres only one person who isnt ever NOT going to be around you

-- paul h (dontSendMeMail@notAnAddress.com), November 06, 2004.

Hey guys, I just want to say thanks for all your prayers.. I've been feeling a lot better since. I just pray it keeps up, but thanks again. :) Praise the Lord, God bless all of you.

-- Josh (Krayzied_Dawgie@yahoo.com), November 09, 2004.