My Jewish ex seeks annulment to marry another Catholic.

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I am a faithful Catholic, recently divorced from a Jewish man. We were married for fifteen years. Marriage ceremony took place in a catholic church with a priest and rabbi present. The priest officiated the marriage. Two children were born into the marriage. Four days after the divorce was final, he married another Catholic in a civil ceremony. She already had her first marriage annuled. Now I learn that he is seeking an annulment because his second wife wants to have their marriage blessed by the Catholic Church. Here's my question: Are they living in sin at this point? Also, I plan to contest the annulment (we were both around 30 years old when we got married, knew exactly what we were doing, attended all pre-cana classes, lived together for almost a year before we were married, etc., etc. etc.). But he says he had apprehensions and got together four witnesses who knew him before the wedding; they're saying he didn't want to get married. Baloney! Please ad

-- Anne V. McConomy-Cohen (anniewammie@aol.com), April 18, 2003

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it would seem to me, in the apparent lack of your former husbands side of the story, that you are right in this case... you did seem to fit the bill for a true marraige. further, i didnt really want to get married does not change the fact that he did get married as a consenting thirty year old adult, and it does not change the fact that that was a valid marrage held in a catholic church and officiated by a catholic priest, making it a valid marraige in my view of the word. an annulment board will have to make the final decision, but if you plead your case, especially mentioning the fact that you dont want your children to have to grow up with the fact that their father doesnt consider his union with their mother to be valid, then i think that you have a strong weight on your side.

-- paul (dontSendMeMail@notAnEmail.com), April 18, 2003.

Jmj
Hello, Anne.

You asked: "Here's my question: Are they living in sin at this point?"
The answer is "yes." He is still presumed to be married to you and cannot live with her. [Divorce does not end a marriage, in God's eyes.]

But you prompt me to ask a rhetorical question in return:
Did you ever repentantly confess the fact that you "lived together for almost a year before [you] were married"? That too was "living in sin." [No need to answer publicly. Just food for your thought and conscience.]

Paul, it was right for you to say that a marriage tribunal will need to study the facts (evidence not available to you) and make a decision in this case. For this reason, it was not proper for you to get Anne's hopes up by saying, "... that was a valid marrage held in a catholic church and officiated by a catholic priest, making it a valid marraige in my view of the word." None of us is qualified to make a premature judgment of this kind.

God bless you.
John

-- J. F. Gecik (jfgecik@hotmail.com), April 19, 2003.


Use condom, it helps.

-- Alive (Aliveandwell@nowand.then), April 20, 2003.

Be sure to make it clear that you will appeal a decision in favor of nullity to the Rota in second instance and follow through if your bluff is called.

Mr Wonderful sound like a bum who wants to have is cake and eat it too. Sorry Anne, you are far from alone. Annie, stick to your guns!

Karl

-- Karl (Parkerkajwen@hotmail.com), April 27, 2003.


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