Domestic Violence Experiences

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I am currently a student in college researching about domestic violence. I was wondering if there is anyone who would like to share their experience w/ me to educate fellow students about the nature of domestic violence. I am in the Sacramento area and would like a reply as soon as possible. Anything will help. Me and my group members are going to put a video documentary together to educate others about domestic violence. Thank You.

-- Anonymous, March 18, 2003

Answers

Hi, Janie!

I think there is a lot in this very section of the website to help you. Domestic violence victimizes both men and women, and I hope you point this out in your college research. The researchers Gelles and Straus have conducted surveys and studies that bear this out. No one deserves to be abused, regardless of gender, body size, or any other classification. Good luck!

-- Anonymous, March 18, 2003


domestic violence can hurt the whole family.I have been in situations of being the aggressor and also the vitim. My ex husband was a controll er I would take so much and explode. The result were most tradgic for all of us , mostly for our 4 children.We all have our scars and yet my ex husband loves to monopolize still on my action. I took years of counseling. did not like who I had became. My kids say i have made great changes . i regret the awful part I played . it has taken every ounce of energy i have to prove not to be a monster. I feel my childrens' pain having to watch what happened. good luck on your article.

-- Anonymous, March 22, 2003

hi, I prayed to God...or the Devil himself,,,, so that I could get pregnant! It took 7- years... but..I finally had a wonderful baby girl. sad...but..now she is 14 and in trouble with cops for breaking into people's homes...drinking..skipping school...messing up her room..writing on walls....I try to give her a hug...she says ...She hates it if I touch her...I got her out of being actually arrested!! She hits her brother...(Who by The way) is a perfect child...he is beautiful...good in school..no problems... I believe she is only interested in her friends...and cruel and wicked to me...she hates where she lives...I love it...it's a nice home ..with a big yard...but..she is always bored... she says her home life sucks...school sucks...she smokes...and will smoke anything!!what can you do to a child that doesn't want anyone to love her..hug her...I feel I failed..school counseling doesn't help ...what does?? Thanks for any and all e-mails:) anmalovr78@aol.com

-- Anonymous, May 03, 2003

I am an aggreser. The nature of Domestic Violence is simple. Power and Controle. You have the feeling that you are not in control, so you think that you have to hit someone or control someone to get that control back. Domestic violence happens because the aggresser does not share his feelings because he/she is afraid to get hurt, so they hurt others. Enstead of being assertive and letting the person know how they are feeling they hold it inside and take it personal. You start to be aggresive or passive or passive aggresive. Not good to do because you are not owning your feeling. You are putting it on the other person. Domestic violence is about not respecting other peoples right to there feelings. It is selfish. I hope this helps from someone who is an aggresser and will always need to share their feelings.

-- Anonymous, May 06, 2003

Thank you for your responses, it has been very helpful to hear personal stories as to how, why, when, and where domestic violence occurs. I realize that just one voice contributes to spreading the awareness. It helps to know that not all people are alone. I praise you Chris, for sharing your experience as an aggressor and pointing out the reasons behind what drove you to committ those acts. Knowing and doing something about it is the most praiseworthy act. Domestic Violence affects too many people and everyone needs to speak out and take actions to help the people who feel like they can't help themselves.

-- Anonymous, May 06, 2003


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