Marrying a Non-Catholic...many questions : LUSENET : Catholic : One Thread

I am extremely confused. My fiance and I want to get married in a Catholic Church, but the problem is, he is not Catholic. He has accepted the fact that he may need to take classes, but my church claims that he needs to be in them for a year. This is impossible with us planning our wedding, and both of us going to MAster's classes after work at night. Can someone in the Norristown, Pa area please help...anyone with any advice would be appreciated as well. Thank you!

-- Megan Guziewicz (, March 17, 2003


Sorry ma'am but this isn't the supermarket for sacraments.

It seems as if you have set a date before booking a church. The RCIA classes have been meeting for over a year since 1980 or something. Is this news to you? Hopefully, the sacrament of marriage will be fully explained in your husbands RCIA classes and you'll both find a deep appreciation for it.

Chances are when people rush into marriage, the next thing to rush into is divorce. If you both enter into your covenant out of patience and understanding (and Communication) I would bet my last dollar that you'd find that marriage will be much more fruitful.

Why is it that you are in such a hurry to get married?

-- patrick (, March 17, 2003.

Could I get an annulment (sorry, a declaration of nullity) when I said to my wife that to cheat me is not good for my health and she cheated me? I don't feel well, I have problems with my health afterwards. Please help. Thank you!

-- Luke Brandenburg (, March 17, 2003.

Eh, I forgot - I said that before the marriage (!) and she cheated after it. Thank you!

-- Luke Brandenburg (, March 17, 2003.

Guess what, Luke. Like Margarite (which may be just another alias of yours) and a variety of other "people" posting on the 17th, I believe that you are a phony.
I believe that you are the person (or one of the people) who have been damaging this forum lately. But now that you know you can't get away with obscenities, you are turning to a new form of harrassment -- phony requests for information regarding marriage and nullity.
We will not be toyed with. Take a hike. [Moderator, purge the spammers, please.]

-- (, March 17, 2003.


If you continue to live conjugally, then you accept the cheating. If however, you stopped living conjugally and separated then you would talk to your pastor about it. If your wife repents and asks forgiveness and comes back it is your choice to allow her back or to continue to live separated. If you refuse her Christian charity for good reason (she cheats all the time or continued to cheat) then you may seek an annulment. In the meantime until the declaration of nullity, you would have to live as any other person who wasn't married. CHASTELY Hope that helps. peace

-- patrick (, March 17, 2003.

All right, Luke.
If you are a legitimate visitor, then I do apologize very sincerely.
This forum has been under the most vile attack, for more than a week, by a person or group of people who have been leaving obscene and racist messages on many, many threads. Upon realizing, within the last 48 hours, that their messages were being deleted by a moderator, they began to use milder "nuisance" messages to disrupt the forum.
Your message was very much like a dozen or more of these nuisance messages. If you are a legitimate visitor, then I unjustly accused you of being one of the trouble-makers. If I did wrong, I beg your pardon.

-- J. F. Gecik (, March 18, 2003.

Pardon given, no harm! Sincerely Luke.

-- Luke Brandenburg (, March 18, 2003.

I would like to thank you all for your sarcastic remarks. I never thought I would come here and find people so ignorant. My question was not "how can i get around this" or "I don't have time for it" my question was is there anywhere that someone would work with us on "off" days so that we can go to RCIA. It is something that both he anhd I would like to do together. And your answer - yes this is news to us. Frankly I have never been through this before. I am sickened at your responses.

-- (, August 01, 2003.

Megan: I'm not sure if you'll be coming back on here to read this, but I understand what you mean. I have been dating a catholic guy for 3 years and some of the same concerns you have are also mine. I live in Perkasie, Pa so we're lost in the same woods. If you find out any information please continue to post on this website as I am hoping to marry sometime in mid to late 2005.

Have you talked to your priest about your hefty schedule? Is your fiance planning on becoming a Catholic? Are these classes specifically for marriage counseling and that is why they are required? From what I've gathered, (and this could be an incorrect assumption) a catholic is allowed to marry a non-catholic in the church however they must not include the mass unless both are catholic.

The best of luck with all your questions!


-- Jessica MacGregor (, May 18, 2004.

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