am i now the abuser after being abused : LUSENET : Domestic Violence Accounts : One Thread

I have just read all these because I have been sexual abused by my duaghters father and mentally for two years, a year ago I managed to get free of him and have now found myself a lovely man who is so loving and gentle, my problem now is that while with my ex he had a porn problem and constantly compared me to all of these glamour models, now whenever anything like this comes on tv I get emotionally upset and just recently I got angry with my partner because we was watching a documentary about domestic violence on tv which showed some porn I turned it over buthe carried on watching which really hurt me so I ended up getting really angry with him and I hit him round the face and head and scratched his face, it scared the hell out of me because that is not in my nature and I hate myself for doing it, can anybody help me, does this mean that I have now turned into the abuser because of what has happened to me???

-- Anonymous, February 20, 2003


Hey Jo--

You may have PTSD symptoms, or get triggered. It is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to get help and not let yourself hurt others.

I hope it goes well. You need healing and support.

-- Anonymous, April 19, 2003

Hi! Jo

I do not think what you done were right nor do I believe that having been abused becomes an excuse for abusing. I do think that because the program brought back so memories you lost it. Make it your business not to lose it again, seek help, and stop violence right there and now.

-- Anonymous, July 18, 2003

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