How Do I End This? : LUSENET : Domestic Violence Accounts : One Thread

I am 27 years old and I have been in an abusive relationship for the past 6 1/2 yrs. My life right now is just plain miserable for me and my five year old son. I am so tired of him seeing me crying, and getting abused. Everytime I leave I always comeback thinking he has changed, but each time it seems to get worse. I fear for my life, and my family's life. He is always threating me he will bring harm to my family. I suffer from clinical depression due to the way he treats me, and have tried many suicide attempts because I am miserable. He has puched me in the ribs and fractured my ribs, he has slapped me, choked me unconscious, and humilated me in front of friends and strangers. I don't know what to do. I have no where to go, no source of income, and a lifetime of pain.

-- Anonymous, February 02, 2003


Dear Damitra, please call th e National Center to Prevent Domestic Abuse. 1-800-799-7233. Good for you, you have the courage to ask for help. Now make the call and they will help you. May God be with you and you little son. He will guide you into safety. Make the call.

-- Anonymous, February 05, 2003

I recommend you 1) find people online who have been through similar experiences 2) research what to do before leaving (make a plan), and 3) leave! You can find more help on the SAFE website:

-- Anonymous, February 15, 2003

PLEASE, please call the DV hotlines and get into a shelter right away! They can help you start from zero, and guide you through the process of beginning a new, joyful life. It is crucial that you give your son the opportunity to grow up w/out the violent images of Mommy being abused. Equally important is your emotional & mental health, eventhough you probably don't realize it now. At least make the move for your son, even if you can't think about what it's doing to you. I know how scary it is to make that first call, taking the first steps out of the 'cage' to freedom, but it's well worth it. I have been free for 4 years now, and my 5 yr. old girl has the best role model- a Mom who can show her how she deserves to be treated. You and your son are precious gifts, and you DO have the strength to make a new life for you two. Make those calls.

-- Anonymous, April 03, 2003

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