Divorce No Ticket to Happiness

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Divorce No Ticket to Happiness, Study Says Fri Jul 12, 9:16 AM ET

CHICAGO (Reuters) - Unhappily married couples often get lots of advice and a report released on Thursday offered some more: don't divorce, stick it out.

Researchers from the University of Chicago and other schools concluded that about the same proportion of couples who avoided divorcing despite an unhappy marriage ended up just as happy five years later as those who had split up.

Interviews with a subset of the 5,232 married adults surveyed in the 1980s and again five years later found those who found happiness discovered the sources of conflict such as money, depression, and even infidelity eased with time.

Others reported they got better at getting along, sometimes enlisting help from relatives or counselors -- or by threatening divorce. Others found ways to be happier individually in spite of their mediocre marriages.

But divorce sets in motion events over which an individual has little control, such as the reactions of spouses and children, as well as the uncertainty of new relationships.

"Staying married is not just for the children's' sake. Some divorce is necessary, but results like these suggest the benefits of divorce have been oversold," said University of Chicago sociologist Linda Waite, lead author of the report presented at a conference in Washington, D.C.

-- For JBT (and his@midlife. crisis), July 12, 2002



I haven't had to think about this stuff. I got married young; I think about 37 years ago [gawd, I am in trouble cause I don't remember, fur sure].

We are simple folks, so I guess that is why it works. Take last night. There was a big storm moving in. The wife was late because she was playing in a golf tournament. I moved the Mercedes under a nearby copse to protect it from the incoming hail. I baked a nice sockeye filet with butter tomato sauce, a salad and some of my dilled beans.

When she got home, we ate this on the porch, accompanied by our dog, Botox, and our cat, Huevos Diablo. We watched the storm come in. Then we went to sleep.

When you don't demand much from life, you can find it. By-the-by, my Mercedes is a Focus. ;<)))

Best Wishes,,,,,


-- Z1X4Y7 (Z1X4Y7@aol.com), July 12, 2002.

Well, Z, I do hope you cleaned up your mess in the kitchen. ;o)

-- huh? (under@the.corpse?), July 12, 2002.


Corpse. LOL.

You park a Mercedes under a copse. You park a Focus under a bunch of small trees.

Haven't you read any cheap novels? :<)))

Best Wishes,,,,,


-- Z1X4Y7 (Z1X4Y7@aol.com), July 12, 2002.


Here's another story. Does this describe you?


-- Jack Booted Thug (governmentconspiracy@NWO.com), July 13, 2002.

JBT are you drinking tonight?

-- (I don't@get.it), July 13, 2002.

LOL, this reminds me of people who have kids without realizing the responsibilities, then cry for help from the taxpayers because they can't take care of them.

Marriage is the same way, you shouldn't do it if you aren't capable of making it work. So the problem is not that the divorce is difficult, it's that you should have never got married in the first place.

Too many people in this world do things while they have their head up their ass. They should pull it out so they can see what they're getting into first, and then make their decisions.

-- (most humans @ are. dumbshits), July 13, 2002.

Good observation.

How does it feel to have never made a mistake in your life?

-- Jack Booted Thug (governmentconspiracy@NWO.com), July 14, 2002.

LOL Z. I've had to park the Jaguar outside for the last few nights. BTW the Jaguar is a '79 Pinto that could sorely use a muffler (the neighbors hate me).

-- Jim Jim (fad@as.me), July 14, 2002.

"Marriage is the same way, you shouldn't do it if you aren't capable of making it work."

How do you know if you're capable or not until you've tried?

In my opinion, someone married 19 years did a pretty good job of making it work.

-- Pammy (pamela_sue57@hotmail.com), July 14, 2002.

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