HELLO Friends

IF YU ARE READING THIS MESSAGE,good. That shows me you are at least willing to tak the first step in making some new changes in you life... also i want to challenge you in a good way. If you are Honest, Open-minded (sprituality that is) and willing, that is a good start. I bielive i am willing to consider helping another person and give back to what has been given to me... learning to set boundaries can be very difficult, scary and hard..you cannot do it alone...however without going in too great of details of tring to sound like i have an ego...lets just say..if you want help...i am at least willing to consider talking to a few (2 or 3 persons) possibly for me working with them,via the e-mail and possibly phone calls , that would be my only charge to you..you call on your dime... etc. But i have the experience with setting boundaries with very abusive difficult persons. I AN POSSIBLY TELL MORE OF MY STORY LATER IF yOU WOULD LIKE...I guess i just want me to know that there is help for BATTERED MEN ,,you are not crazy i bielieve you and would like to help you.

HOWEVER for the would be potential prospect he is what i would expect from anyone who desires to contact me..

.a) This is a spiritual program, so this means we will talk about GOD in a recovery standpoint? b) Are you teachable? c) Are you willing to go to 12 step support groups and learn how to cope in better ways and make some new contacts, basicaly learning how to develope your safety team...like going to Coda 12 step meetings , and Going to AL-Anons 12 step meetings etc etc...

d) Are you willing to step out and make changes in yourself? I will walk with you, listen to you encourge you but are you willing to listen to my advice, when it really hits the fan..so to speak..Because its been my experience Once you begin to shake the nest a little bit you will begin to get some angry rections from your wife...which may or may not affect you. However, you will get your self-respect and your dignity back...and your childen if you have any will now begin to RESPECT you ...as a Dad and a MAN...

E) if you can answer yes to all of these thus far..then lets go and contact me..i will do my best to help you become safe for you and you children..NO games,No deceit...just desire to restore Men one Man at a time....

f.) my email is ...reh0803@yahoo.com

Rick H.

Central Fla.

Monday 06/24/02

-- Anonymous, June 24, 2002

Answers

Rick I am writing for my son. He has been in a first controlling relationship and since the birth of their child three years ago, an out of control controlling relationship. He started dating her at age 17 and he is now 24. They separated in March of this year by her choice, and the control is even worse. He said to me recently "my sole is dead." He has also very recently accepted Christ into his heart; however, the battle is overwhelming for him. He is such a spiritual, kind, loving person - and is brain washed to thinking this is a bad thing. I know you can help him. I am writing first becuase he wants help but really does not know where to go to get it. He has seen Pastor Ted once, really liked him, but has not gone back. He keeps saying "you just don't understand." PLEASE RICK, WRITE BACK. Thank you, Jeff's Mom.

-- Anonymous, August 18, 2002