I Keep choosing realy dangerous,abusive WOMEN..why? Do you struggle also with this issue? What have you dont differntly, now to overcome that tendency....Feedback will actully save my life and the lives of my son and daughter.greenspun.com : LUSENET : domestic violence : One Thread |
HELLO friends in the SAFE -SUPPORT GROUP.My name is Rick H. today is thursday 06/20/02 and i certainly would like to talk to other heterosexual men who have had or were a JERK MAGNET also.. meaning you aso were really have this pattern of choosing really dangerous, destructive, Cold, DISTANT HATEFUL ABUSIVE WOMEN. WHY do i do this? what in me is so broken that i am attacted to this type of woman? Can others share their growth experiences with me by e-mailing me so i can grow through this diifficult passage of life....
feedback welcome..thanks in advance.
reh0803@yahoo.com Rick H.
THURSDAY 06/20/02
Central Florida
-- Anonymous, June 20, 2002
Dude the women your talking about are most likley psychopaths, they most likley have treated everyone they have been with this way. They only men they might treat good is someone worse off than they are. Psychopaths are very freindly and good at articulation which makes them seem a good find at first but then the madness starts. Don't blame yourself they are predators and the only way to deal with them is to get mean and tell them to get lost. You have not lost anything when they leave because there is nothing worth losing in them. You are not alone these type of women pray upon good peoples feelings for their own rewards.
-- Anonymous, September 27, 2002
Women DON'T *choose* abusive men. Men DON'T *choose* abusive women.It's just bad luck, drawing the short straw - do NOT blame yourself for a minority of women who cannot control their urges.
Most women are perfectly normal and quite nice people, as are a majority of men. It's just plain bad luck that there is a minority on BOTH sides who feel they can abuse their partner.
The biggest problem men face in this situation, is that women can and do get away it far more than any man/men are able to due to lopsided campaigns usually sponsored in one way or another ignoring male victims. This skewed view ensures that their organisations remain in some power, usually financial. Then comes the social implications, admitting to being abused is a shameful experience for a man. Men aren't abused, are they? We need to revamp how DV is viewed, remove the bias underhand tactics employed by certain women's organisations and start afresh - without sexism.
-- Anonymous, March 21, 2003