HI,I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR TWO AND A HALF YEARS AND IN THE BEGINING OF OUR RELATIONSHIP HE WAS NICE AT FIRST THEN HE ALWAYS WANTED ME JUST TO HISSELF AND FOR ME NOT TO ALWAYS TALK TO MY FRIENDS.BUT HE DOESN'T BOTHER ME TO MUC HWITH THAT AND OVER OUR FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE WHEN WE WOULD FIGHT HE WOULD GET A LITTLE VIOLENT LIKE HOLDING ME REAL TIGHT AND HE USED TO PULL MY HAIR.AND HE HAS GRABBED THE NECK ONCE.AND HE ALWAYS SAYS I DIDN'T SQUEZE YOU THAT HARD.AND HE DOES.AND RECENTLY WE HAD A FIGHT AND I WANTED HIM TO GET OUT OF MY FACE SO I PUSHED HIM AND HE SMACKED ME REAL HARD IN THE FACE AND MY CHEAK HAS BEEN BLACK AND BLUE A LITTLE AND HIS PARENTS USED TO BE WORSE THEN THIS AND I WAS WONDERING IF I SHOULD GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP KNOW BEFORE ITS TO LATE.OR IF I CAN HELP HIM.BUT OTHER WISE HE CAN BE SUCH A LOVING PERSON AND A GREAT FATHER AND IT HURTS BECAUSE I DO LOVE HIM ALOT.

-- Anonymous, May 03, 2002

Answers

That's not love you're feeling. It's co-dependency. Arrange things to protect yourself, your assets, and your children. Talk to a good lawyer in your area. Talk to the police. Call 911 and file charges the very next time he lays a hand on you. File for custody and divorce and avoid this person as much as possible.

Yes it will get worse. Don't waste your time on this man when there are many others out there that'd never do these things. That is not a good environment for your children.

-- Anonymous, May 04, 2002

I have been with my partner for five years. He beat me up bad one day and i got him locked up for four months, got on with my life and tried to forget about him. When the order banning him to contact me was over he called me and i got weak, time had passed and i couldn't believe it had really been all that bad when we were together. He went through six months of group therapy for domestic violence and we seemed to be getting on, but there were still little incidents that made me uneasy. Last week he choked me so hard he left his finger marks on my neck, punched me twice in my head so hard i could hear a whistling noise in my ear and a swollen tender lump on my temple, forced my head down so i lacerated the inside of my mouth with my teeth and threatened to kill me. I am going home tomorrow to collect my possessions. I am bringing someone with me for protection and I am closing the door on this chapter of my life. Violent men are narccisistic misogynists who are weaker than the women they hit. They usually hit us because we are so strong and they want to try and break us. Don't let him break you, you're better than that.

-- Anonymous, May 12, 2002

Way to go Addie. May the bridges that you burn light the way!

-- Anonymous, May 13, 2002

i once had a gal that worked for me. she said she was married about a year and her husband beat her up. she gave hime one more chance. same thing happened again. he drank alot. the next time he was drinking and passed out in bed. she tied him up. packed the car and baby up. put a bar of soap in a sock. beat him black blue orange and yellow. moved out of state. had a lawyer handle it all. never regreted it once. she said if she had stayed, than she deserved to get beat up. get out now.

-- Anonymous, May 15, 2002

Never Be With Someone Thinkin You Can Change ThEM!! Cause they never change things just get WORSE

-- Anonymous, July 27, 2003