How can I make her stop without losing my family

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Here is the problem my wife and I lead what appears to be a normal life to everyone but her, her best friend, her mother, and one of her 2 sisters. These are the only people aware of the abuse and they support her 100% in some case they contribute to the abuse. As far as I can tell I am the only person she abuses physically. I have never seen her abuse the kids nor have I seen any evidence of abuse on the kids. However she repeatedly threatens to accuse me of abuse and take our children if I report it. When I try to talk with her about it she becomes abusive for mentioning it. In the past when I have tried to resist the abuse she became more and more violent and threating. Now I just accept the abuse when it happens. The abuse is not life threating, but it can be painful and emotionally humiliating. I feel like I have no recourse and must allow the abuse to continue or ruin the family.

-- Anonymous, April 23, 2002

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-- Anonymous, April 25, 2002


That's emotional abuse of your kids. You can't say it doesn't affect them somehow. Next time she does that, call the police, press charges and follow through with it. Is this really what you want your children living in? Is this really the kind of woman you want to be with? I'd make a case against her to prove she's unstable and then get yourself and your children out of the situation. If everything is like you say, you will not lose your family, that is your kids, you so-called wife is not acting like family to you.

-- Anonymous, April 27, 2002

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