For the guys. An effective date stategy : LUSENET : A Country Singletree : One Thread

Troll the grocery stores. Don't just go in and buy the frozen, typical bachelor fare either. Use those coupons. Discuss bargains with the women. Look for wedding bands, engagement rings, hickeys and of course rather large boyfriends :) Don't look helpless, thats out of style now. while conversing with a potential date in the produce section remark how you dislike having to buy gassed produce when you will be growing your own shortly. Talk of gardening, leave out goats, compost or other major homestead stuff until you know them better. On first contact, make note of the time the potential did her shopping and try to make a secondary contact same time next week. Split your shopping trips up over a couple of days to afford yourself more trips for trolling and to not allow yourself to appear as if your stocking up for the winter. Its better to appear forgetful than as a boy scout.

-- Pick Up on isle 8 (, February 22, 2002


Has this ever worked for anyone? I've heard this "conventional wisdom" (and the one about the laundramat) over and over, but it's never gotten me more than smiles and simple replies....not engaging conversation. Most women that I've asked about it are pretty wary of this approach, or they just don't have the time to be picked up in a grocery store.

The other problem with this is that checking for rings and such doesn't help. I know of so many women in this area who are married and are not on the prowl that never wear a wedding ring. It's even moreso for the men, so women don't trust that you're not married just cause you're not wearing a ring. I think we should all have to wear T-shirts that say "Single and Looking" on them. This wouldn't eliminate the problem, but it would be easier than trying to get a glimpse of someone's finger as they go by. And everyone would know what you were trying to do without having to guess.

As far as the conversation goes, I guess Jay would have to eliminate his worms as a possible conversation starter, huh!

-- Fran (on MD's Eastern Shore) (, February 22, 2002.

Worked for me, but my store was in the same center as a womens fitness center (talk about scenery). I had better luck in laundry mats where I could look for mens underwear as they folded their stuff out of the dryer and laundry schedules are easier to judge.

-- Jay Blair in N. AL (, February 22, 2002.

What if I pick up a girl at a bait shop?

-- Jay Blair in N. AL (, February 22, 2002.

Jay, the bait shop idea isn't bad, but she might already have a guy in tow.

-- Sherry (, February 22, 2002.

Theres a grocery store chain in Florida I think its Albersons not sure but they have a singles nite for singles pretty cool idea!! I prefer horse sales or events!!Feed stores and auctions myself!! LOL!!

-- Grizz in Western Maryland (, February 22, 2002.

And now A country singletree!!LOL!!

-- Grizz in Western Maryland (, February 22, 2002.

Hey, Grizz, at these auctions, do you get to bid on the women, like in the John Michael Montgomery song?

-- Fran (on MD's Eastern Shore) (, February 22, 2002.

I'm with Grizz, well not with him, but his idea, well you know what I mean. The laundry mat idea? Ehhhh! If a guy can't afford a washer and dryer, I'm not interested, chances are I'd be doing his laundry. Auctions are good, look over the live stock, lots to discuss. You can always fain stupid and ask questions about something. Grocery store, in the city this is good. I was always told Thursday nights were the night to find a date for Friday.Up here it doesn't work. Shows are good, horse shows, music events, state and county fairs. The main thing is to go where your interests are.

Fran your wrong about Jay and his worm/s(problem), heeee heeee! Sorry Jay! But why shouldn't he talk about his worms. They are a part of him and who he is(god this sounds awful). Unless you are just out looking for a quick poke(sorry for the vulgarity) you should make every effort to talk about who you are and what you like and don't like. How awful to spend a lot of time getting to know someone only to find out that there is one little thing, or a whole bunch of little things, you don't like. That one little thing will generally be the end of the relationship. If you are looking for quality go where your interests are and talk.

My mother, poor woman, raised us to; go out with anyone who might ask us because he just might have a nice brother or friend. Look where I wound up! Ha!!!!

Susan(the other one)

-- Susan in Mnnesota (, February 22, 2002.

I'm with Susan on this one, no laundermats. Grocery stores around here don't have much to offer either. I still prefer the fishing route. Men love to help women with fishing, although I do know how to do it, its a great place to meet.

-- Sherry (, February 22, 2002.

Thanks Susan, but if I ask a new girl out, I'll pass on saying "Ihave worms", she might spend the date trying to see if I'm scootin' on my seat :>)

-- Jay Blair in N. AL (, February 22, 2002.

About those worms- personally, I'd be thrilled to meet a guy who shared my own interest in worms, just never happens for me! People just don't seem to understand the attraction. Last week, for instance, I started a new gig with a band that I have never worked with before, so we're on a long bus ride back to Nashville after doing our weekend of shows, and I have a few weeks off till we go out again. The band is going to Trinidad and I am at home. The guys were a little envious of my free time off, and made some inquiries as to how I would be spending my time while they work. Naturally, I mentioned that I have some work to catch up on at home, what with the bees to look after, worms to sort and ship, new worm bin to build, rabbit manure to haul- you know, all those fun things that I miss when I'm on the road. Well, I don't think that went over to well- in fact, I got the impression that now they just think I am wierd!

-- Elizabeth (, February 22, 2002.

LOL ....OK Jay....give adefination of "scoottin in your seat"..... love it...

-- Jim-mi (, February 22, 2002.

Jimmi and Jay it is one of the great untruths about dogs scooting their butts when they have worms. They scoot to help clear out the anal glands. No Jay if you are having anal gland problems. . . This is getting gross let's talk about something else.

-- The other one (susan) (, February 22, 2002.

I know but that what everyone thinks. It was just watermelon conversation.


I can relate to the "wierd" labeling. I got called away from my operation to help some friends with some electronics problems and lost a couple hatchlings on the circuit boards that had hitchhiked on my sleeve. Now when I go to help them, one of them always threatens to get a wormer gun to protect their sound gear.

-- Jay Blair in N. AL (, February 23, 2002.

Jay, Susan, How about "the hebejeebies"?? Darn its hard to leave the worm thing!!

-- Jim-mi (, February 23, 2002.

Strange man approaching me in the laundromat? the grocery store? I'm outta there. Don't know 'bout the rest of you gals, but it's a dangerous world for me and one has to be very careful.

-- Susan in Northern LP Michigan (, February 24, 2002.

Not having to "approach" women is why those locations work so well. While selecting fresh produce, you strike up a conversation or while using the machine next to them in the laundry mat, talk about how to get whites whiter or laugh about turning your whites pink. It has disadvantages also. Women may feel so comfortable in those areas, that they won't "bolt" as you say it and a fellow ends up wasting his time on an non interested woman.

-- Jay Blair in N. AL (, February 24, 2002.

Very good point Jay. I thought about it. If someone my age group talked to me, I would be polite and respond. A LOT would depend on his/her "attitude". I hope I can judge folks well enough to know if they are sincere or just being creepy. I apologize for being TOO cautious, which is a handicap for those of us who have been used/abused by the bad guys. I hope to meet all of the folks on this forum in the grocery store one day! Say, there's an idea....let's all meet at Albetson's in Southern Illinois this next fall...that's kinda central. LOL :)

-- Susan in Northern LP Michigan (, February 24, 2002.

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