That Nicole girl doesn't really think she's ugly, she just wants people to put her in their weblogs and stuff and have guys tell her how good looking she is. Stop fishing for compliments, it's annoying.

-dan

-- Anonymous, May 16, 2001

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dan...

as a matter of fact, no matter how good looking or unattractive a person may be, many people often have a distorted body image. people with eating disorders often are the ones who suffer the most from severe distortion of the reality of their appearance, and if you read any of nicole's info on herself, you would see she used to be anorexic...which leads to the belief that she probably doesn't have a very positive and/or accurate view of herself.

-- Anonymous, May 16, 2001

Yeah. But then there are people who actually do do the aforementioned (thanks dan, you said it before I did), whether they were/are anorexic or not. It's like, shut up already, thanks.

-- Anonymous, May 16, 2001

god damnit, this is starting to piss me off. all I said to Katie was that I didn't think that I was pretty. Excuse me for not being narcissistic.

-- Anonymous, May 16, 2001

the both of you are annoyingly superficial. who gives a flying fuck who's ugly or who's fat or pretty or thin? jeez.

-- Anonymous, May 17, 2001

Um... I think if any of us were something to write home about, we wouldnt be sitting online all the time posting in web forums. Of course in my experience, there are quite a few really good looking people online, the problem is that they have no self confidence... so maybe thats our problem... we all have no self confidence.

See Nicole... its not that you arent pretty, its that you lack self confidence, like the rest of us. We are all outspoken and shit online, but stick us in a room full of people and we'd shut up pretty quickly and hide under a table.

There you go... Greg solves another one.

-- Anonymous, May 17, 2001

I'll bet if I said that I thought I was pretty, I'd be called an egotistical bitch. It's like Katie said last night--you can't win.

-- Anonymous, May 17, 2001

Actually, there is a middle ground between gorgeous and ugly scum of the earth. Or, alternately, you could just not comment on your appearance at all. If you really thought you were ugly, you probably wouldn't have 30 pictures of yourself on the internet.

-- Anonymous, May 17, 2001

i dont thing she said she was ugly...she said she didnt think she was pretty. there's nothing wrong with thinking you're not pretty if you are...it doesn't mean she's fishing for compliments. some people just dont think they are. i am sure she knows she isn't ugly.

-- Anonymous, May 17, 2001

You know, you could go and refer back to Katie's May 15th weblog post and read exactly what she said and I do believe the word "ugly" was mentioned somewhere in there. :)

-- Anonymous, May 17, 2001

okay, so the word ugly was mentioned. does that necessarily mean she is fishing for compliments? like she said in her reply above, she could say she thinks she's beautiful and then you would probably say she was an egotistical bitch. so what is the way we can comment on our looks in an acceptable manner so as not to look like we want people to tell us how good looking we are or be called an egotist while still being honest about how ugly/attractive we think we might be?

-- Anonymous, May 17, 2001

Look, if you say, "Hey, go look at these pictures, aren't I sooooo ugly," you are fishing for compliments, I don't fucking care what you say. You know the person looking at the pictures isn't going to say, "Yep, you sure are a hideous beast," even if you truly do believe you are ugly. You would know that anyone would say, "Ohhh, honey, no you're not ugly, you're pretty!" It's lame.

-dan

-- Anonymous, May 18, 2001

I try to tell people the truth about whether I think they're attractive or not, when they ask me. I don't say "you're a hideous beast," I try to be more constructive about it than that, like say that they could have a better hair cut or whatever the problem is.. I really raerly see someone I consider *ugly*, per se, usually it's just not thinking they're attractive. I think a lot of young girls have a really fucked up sense of what is ugly, and they'll probably think something really different when they're older. You have to be pretty seriously deformed to be ugly when you're 20 years old living well in the United States (able to shower and get haircuts and wear makeup and eat regularly and all that shit.) IMO.

Personally, I consider myself reasonably attractive, recognise that some people think I'm attractive and some don't, people aren't exactly knocking my door down to get their hands on me but I don't crack mirrors either, and I really don't care about it too much. I put in some effort to exercise regularly both for my health and my appearance, as I'd like to get laid every once in a while, and I keep myself hygenic and reasonably well groomed, but I really have more important things to think about and if I was ugly as fuck it would not be the end of the world. And, not all people who are\ confident and outspoken online aren't in person, though. I tend to be rather confident, myself (depending on the situation, of course.)

-- Anonymous, May 18, 2001

First of all, I didn't post ONE of those pictures of me on the internet. It's kind of obvious that it isn't my page when you look at the address. ANDREWcgp.webjump.com

Why is such a big deal being made out of this? The only thing I said was that if I were a guy and I saw me, I wouldn't fuck me. I do not find myself attractive. Big fucking deal. Get over it.

-- Anonymous, May 19, 2001

if she was attractive (or more pertinently, if she thought she was attractive), i highly doubt she would have said "go look how pretty i am." i agree that she's fishing for compliments, and she couldn't have gone looking in an easier place: another person with (supposed) "low self-esteem."

right, it's not a big deal. so why bother remarking on your appearance at all? i was going to make an analogy about the archetypal tall blonde who looks at her reflection in department store windows, but then i remembered chances are good that nicole think she's something else, too.

-- Anonymous, May 19, 2001

oh lord....

-- Anonymous, May 19, 2001

Nicole, maybe you wouldn't fuck you if you were a guy because you're not attracted to girls (this is safe to assume because you said "if I was a guy"..) If you suddenly found yourself with a penis I don't think that would change and if you were born a heterosexual guy you can't say for sure who you'd be attracted to because you wouldn't have the same experience or opinions about what is attractive as you do now.

-- Anonymous, May 19, 2001

Even if it wasn't your web site, Nicole, you're still the one with the web cam. You're still the one giving pictures out to people telling people that you don't find yourself attractive while along along looking for someone to tell you the exact opposite.

If anything, you're the one who made this into a big deal. You're the one with the "lets pitty me" web site. Like dan said, don't comment on your appearence at all, because you know what will happen if you do.

-- Anonymous, May 19, 2001

"Like dan said, don't comment on your appearence at all, because you know what will happen if you do."

Yeah, a bunch of jerks will have something to say about it either way.

-- Anonymous, May 19, 2001

Stop being so fucking sensitive. If you were really deathly frightened of what people had to say about your appearance, you wouldn't have a webcam.

-dan

-- Anonymous, May 19, 2001

i don't fish for compliments as a rule, because i don't have issues with my self-esteem, but what the hell is so wrong with someone wanting to be complimented?

why waste your time being annoyed by that? who cares. just ignore it.

-- Anonymous, June 13, 2001

Just about everyone wants to be complicated, but not everyone goes about getting compliments in such a manner as Nicole did. It's more about pity and commiseration. Admit it. And it's annoying as hell whether you want to allow yourself to acknowledge that or not.

-- Anonymous, June 13, 2001

Oops. Complimented, not complicated.

-- Anonymous, June 13, 2001

Actually, complicated could work, too. I know a LOT of people who want to be complicated... know what I mean? "Oh, I'm so hard to figure out. I'm so complex." Not that all people are simple and everything, but you know what I mean. I used to be like that. But anyway... back to the subject...

-- Anonymous, June 13, 2001

I love how everyone takes something so simple and makes a huge freaking deal out of it. It's classic. :) I have the same problem that Katie does--my tone is misunderstood a lot. I am an incredibly sarcastic person.

-- Anonymous, June 18, 2001

Congratulations.

-- Anonymous, June 20, 2001

Thanks!

-- Anonymous, June 20, 2001