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Tools Make Life Easier for People With Joint Pain By Kyle Roderick ThirdAge Staff

Getting a good grip on household and garden tools can be tough, and doubly so for people with arthritis. We've assembled a selection of super-gripping tools available online to help you handle various activities with ease.

When you're out walking Fido or Fifi, ensure the surest possible grip with a dog leash woven in cotton with rubberized stiching. The Gripper Leash is reinforced at both ends with glove leather and is available in 1/2- and 3/4-inch widths as well as various lengths. It also comes with an extra-large handle for an easier hold.

You can greatly simplify food preparation and save time in the kitchen with ergonomically designed tools from OXO International. Their can openers, vegetable peelers, corkscrews, ice cream scoops and other products feature large, soft, flexible handles that accommodate your unique grip.

Every gardener depends on the right tools to cultivate their earth. At Westons Internet, you'll find gardening forks, trowels, weeders, hoes and cultivators specially designed for people with arthritis.

The PETA gardening tools have fist-grip handles angled about 90 degrees from the tool head, allowing you to hold the tool without bending your wrist, ensuring greater comfort. You can also purchase add-on handles to adapt your own tools.

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Stay strong and supple with the ThirdAge Guide to Arthritis.

Divorce: Six Steps to Being a Survivor

By Courtney Knowles Institute for Equality in Marriage

Anyone who has navigated the rough waters of divorce will tell you it can make the Australian Outback look like a day in the park. It takes all the grit you have to turn emotions like anger, fear and sorrow into positive energy to manage your divorce successfully.

Lorna Wendt knows these challenges firsthand. When her husband of 32 years asked for a divorce, she became an unwilling partner in one of the most public and controversial divorces in recent history. Lorna went on to start The Institute for Equality in Marriage to provide support, information and resources for men and women before, during and after marriage.

From personal experience and advice from her team of legal, financial and spiritual advisors, Lorna and the Institute have developed six steps to help you survive your divorce with knowledge and dignity:

1. Get out of bed. Divorce is an extremely emotional time and it’s all too easy to get overwhelmed. But while sitting on the sidelines and watching the lawyers play your game might seem appealing, the stakes are usually too high for you to be a spectator. YOU are the manager of the divorce process.

2. Lean on someone. Even as you work to keep the divorce machine running effectively, don’t forget you need emotional support. Utilize friends, family, spiritual advisors and, if needed, a therapist to help you deal with the myriad of feelings that accompany this major change in your life.

3. Go to Kinkos. You ARE going to need copies of any documents related to bank accounts, investments, debt, tax returns, etc. Save yourself time and energy by making copies of all these items as soon as divorce seems a possibility. Start a filing system with these documents and continue to keep records of all meetings, phone calls and financial transactions related to your divorce.

4. Become an expert. You can’t possibly make wise decisions as the manager of your divorce if you don’t understand the terrain. The library, local bookstores and the World Wide Web provide a wealth of information. The Institute for Equality in Marriage’s Web site is an excellent place to start.

5. Hire the best. As the active manager of your divorce, it’s your job to build the best team possible within your resources. Research lawyers or financial advisors carefully. Ask for references. Constantly monitor the effectiveness of your team and have honest discussions at the first sign of problems. When all is said and done, you can’t blame your lawyer, or anyone else, for a poorly run divorce.

6. Dream a little. Some days it will seem like the world is ending. The fact remains, there is life after divorce. We’d suggest that you avoid making any drastic decisions about career, relocation or lifestyle in the heat of the divorce process, but certainly let yourself imagine the kind of future that will make you comfortable and happy.

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Don't let your divorce leave you broke -- avoid costly mistakes.

-- Anonymous, May 06, 2001