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I was sent this from a friend. Thank God I do not have an abusive husband.....I'd KILL him!

SOMEThiNG TO THINK ABOUT I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare, I couldn't believe it was real.I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today,and it wasn't mother's day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again, it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, Today was a very special day, It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage to leave him I would not have gotten flowers today...... If you are against domestic abuse please pass this along to every body,

-- Anonymous, April 15, 2001

Answers

SARO,

I couldn't agree with you more as to the tragedy of these types of relationships. But I also know how women seem like moths to flames in some of these... you try and try to help them break away, but they keep diving back into the fire till one day they don't come out.

I'm not saying that men like this are to be excused... I'm saying as long as women empower them, they will continue to abuse... they can't abuse if they have no one to take their shit...

-- Anonymous, April 16, 2001


Carl, you are so right about that. Thank God I have never had to deal with a man that hit me.....I am the most easy going, "motherly" type out there....but DON't.....I repeat...Don't piss me off. And Don't EVER hit me...I will snap. I know I will snap....and I will go after you until there is no moving left. I can take alot, but men abusing women and children and animals.....I would spend the rest of my lkive in jail if I had to, but I would let all the rage I hold so deep inside me out, and unleash it on the poor basterd that EVER thought he could hit me and get away.

Wow...(do you think I have some "anger" issues!)

I guess, I can't see how a woman would let a man ccontinually beat her....but then I am not walking in her shoes. I think woman must not fall into "victimhood" and do what ever it takes to empower themselves.

I have started a forum for women that have been abused or have things to work out....and I have done this just as much for me as for them....And I do feel I am no longer a victim of childhood abuse.....and that I can work through the emotional baggage I've had for over 40 yrs. but as you can see, and I just realized...I do have to work on this anger thing!

I do know there are great men, few and far between, but I am married to one, and I have met some great ones on-line!

-- Anonymous, April 16, 2001


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