Was I wrong for getting my sister-in-law flowers for valentines day? Did you get anything for anyone other than your significant other that you got in trouble for? Ow!

-- Anonymous, February 19, 2001

Answers

Only if you have unpure thoughts about her. Or discusse beavers with her on a regular basis. (Oh wait, that's another discussion.) But really,I think it was a nice thing to do and shows respect for your wife's family.

-- Anonymous, February 19, 2001

With whom are you in trouble, Human? And is she married to your brother... or are you married to her sister???

-- Anonymous, February 19, 2001

My husband got flowers for all the women he works with in the office. Being that I know them all and think they are lovely ladies I didn't mind at all. If he had done that at the last place he worked I would have been livid, since I thought half of them were evil bitches and the other half "easy like Sunday morning."

Does your wife get along with your sister-in-law? If she doesn't have a lot of respect for her or doesn't trust her, I can understand why she would be upset.

-- Anonymous, February 19, 2001

My boss gave me flowers, and I was thrilled. I don't think he got in trouble for it, and he also sent a lovely bouquet to a long distance close female friend...I know it was lovely because I chose it and made the arrangements...okay, and it was my idea. But it was still his sentiment, he cares deeply for his friend, and his wife is very aware. I can't say that I would have handled knowing that my man sent flowers to a dear friend so gracefully, though. But he can send all the flowers he wants to my brother's wife, his brother's wife, and my mother and I would love him even more for the sweet gesture.

-- Anonymous, February 19, 2001

You did have the good sense not to sign your name... I sent my sister-in-law flowers for V-day, but only because she really places importance on the day and feels sad every time her dumbass husband ignores the significance. C'mon James, spill the beans!

-- Anonymous, February 20, 2001

We always give small gifts for Valentine's Day. Nothing major, it's a Hallmark Holiday and not a big deal. This year my husband and I both kinda screwed up, though.

My husband likes the "Suxcessories" posters -- you know, the ones that mock the "inspiration in the workplace" sayings you can find in any office. Well, I got him one that I thought was cute: "Mistakes: It may be that the purpose of your life is to serve as a warning to others."

Didn't hit me how he could take it personally till I was driving down the road to work on Valentine's Day.

He got me a box of chocolate-covered cherries, which I don't like. I was going to be graceful and take them to work to disappear, but my daughter pretty quickly filled him in that Mama says chocolate covered cherries are yucky. Thanks, kiddo.

-- Anonymous, February 20, 2001

Wrong or not, I don't know. I do know that I'd felt weird if either of my brothers-in-law got me flowers. Then again, maybe it's cause they are weirdos. So. Tell us the details.

And it is nice to hear from you, Tigerman.

-- Anonymous, February 20, 2001

My lips are sealed. james

-- Anonymous, February 20, 2001

At what point did your wife learn you sent flowers to your sister-in-law, before of after they were delivered? Also, did she learn from you that you had sent them, or did she have to hear it from someone else?

-- Anonymous, February 21, 2001

As always she learned it from me. I am straight with her always. Her sister has a signifigant other who's a sack of shit and gets her nothing. Ever! He has his own house which his kids have never seen the inside of. In fact they had to go pee out in his backyard one time when he had them and had to stop at the house for something. No lie! I couldn't believe it. He and I have come really close to blows at times. He takes his daughter to the park and lets her go play on the equipment a couple of hundred yards from his car and he just sits and reads a book. He's done this since she was 4 or 5 years old. Homeless all over the place. I'd kick his everlivin ass but for the pandamonium it would create. He's a fuckin asshole. Oh sorry! That's french for dickwad. Anyway, I'm trying to somehow wean her from her self defeatest attitude about herself and show her that there are things in life that should come her way but she has to stretch out and join the world. She's a good looking women! She hasn't gotten flowers from anyone since I've been around. And occasionally someone comes along in her life but with the shithead in the picture they always make a quick exit. My wife didn't understand the gesture. It's taken me a long time to get her to feel good about herself. She's a great gal when she's not mad at me for bantering with her. Or trying to help her see another approach to some problem. She's politically naive. Anyway, I explained things to her and she went....oh. Ok. Anyway, the bruises will heal in time. James

-- Anonymous, February 21, 2001

I hope you sent your wife flowers, cheeky monkey. That guy sounds like he needs some serious help, James.

-- Anonymous, February 21, 2001

Why would your wife berate you for flowers you hadn't even sent her sister yet?

-- Anonymous, February 21, 2001

Maybe the next time you try to make another woman feel better, you should talk to your wife about it first.

-- Anonymous, February 21, 2001

To set the record straight for those who don't read well, My wife recieved a kitchen and living room "full" of flowers. A whole day before V-day. James

-- Anonymous, February 22, 2001

Did you buy "her" a vacuum cleaner and "some" mops, "too"? And I hope that kitchen came "with" wall-to-wall "carpeting"- you wouldn't want her bare "feet" to get cold!

-- Anonymous, February 23, 2001

Corky, he bought his wife 2 roomsfull (roomfulls?) of flowers; he did not get her a new kitchen, vacuum, or maternity top. And James always speaks highly and respectfully of his wife on his posts (at least the ones I've read).

-- Anonymous, February 23, 2001