What worries you?

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Petty stuff, major stuff, implausible or ongoing... what do you fret about?

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

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Oh, good Lord, Gwen, I worry about everything.

I worry about not being able to find a job/place to live/any friends when I move to DC next year. I worry that my mom will get sick and won't be able to be independent any more. I worry that no man *ever again* will love me. I worry that I added too much oregano to the spaghetti sauce. I worry about doing my taxes.

Just one big old bundle of worries, here.

(Please, before you all start e-mailing me with advice about anti- depressants and psychiatric help - most of the above was very much tongue-in-cheek. Most of it.)

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

I'm like you, Tracey--I worry about everything. It's as if I think that if I worry about it, and think about what could go wrong, then I'll be prepared for every eventuality, but if I let it go and think about something else, I will be punished for being disinterested and uninvolved.

It come sin cycles. When I feel physically good and life hasn't dumped a lot of nasty surprises on me for a while, I don't worry as much. When things aren't going as well or I feel bad, I worry and get myself very upset over nearly everything.

I'm worrying RIGHT NOW, and it would take me three hours to detail everything that is on my worry list. Suffice it to say that you aren't alone. :)

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000


Oversleeping. Not getting my papers turned in on time. Perverts at the playground. Plane crashes. Dying before I'm ready to go. Other people dying before I'm ready for them to go. Never being able to pay off my student loans. Being an ugly hosebeast.

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

I mostly worry about people close to me dying.

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

im real ascared that brett gonna find out that im diong phone sex on the phone. cuz ithink hes gonna be real mad at me forever if he does. i dont think i could ever tell him . hes been wondring about the xtra cash iv had for the wedding and i told him that onw of my jobs gave me a raise. he seemd to by it. my phone name is bunnie.

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000


floosie, what do you think would happen if Bret found out? If he did find out and you told him you did it for him, I hope he wouldn't be too upset about it.

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

i think he would ask me every thing i say to my clients cuz hes alway asking me about all my old bfs and how many times i had sex with thme. hes very jealous. like if a guys says hi to me when im with him he gets all mad.

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

I worry about fire... if someone ripped off my computer, I coud replace it, but a fire would destroy every remnent of my life - and so many things could never ever be replaced. I worry about being falsely imprisoned (I know, I know - weird given that I am a crime-free kinda girl). I worry that I will become disabled in some way that would be permanent and require me to need others to assist me - esp. with hygiene, etc., having no privacy and aaautonomy. I worry that I will be stuck in a substandard, pee-smelling, understaffed, depressing, dirty, nursing home somewhere, and my mind will be sharp, but I will be unable to communicate in anyway or move... staff will treat me with contempt as if I am retarded or already dead and just a big nuisance. And then some lowlife, John hinkley-looking orderly type will abuse a lot of us. I worry that when I die and they harvest my organs (as is my choice) instead of my liver going to a young mother of 3, a kindly father or a teenager with the rest of their life ahead of them, it'll go to Larry Hagman. I worry that when I laugh I might snort.

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

I worry about everything. I'm worried right now, about, oh, at least 6 different things. The problem is that I used to be able to distinguish between what was an irrational worry and a rational one, and how I could take steps to solve/effect the rational ones. Now I can't tell anymore... everything seems to me as if it could happen and possibly will. And I am so superstitious that I sometimes think if I *don't* worry about something, I am granting karma free reign to make that thing happen. How messed up is that? I'm going to have 18 kinds of ulcer before I hit 40.

-- Anonymous, October 12, 2000

I worry that everyone will find out that I'm not really any good at writing and I"m not very smart and it just looked like I was all those things because everyone else at my school was much worse, but really I'll never make it as a writer and most people knew all along.

I worry I'll suddenly lack the motivation to do the million things I must do every day and I'll be booted out of every organization, fail out of school, never pay my bills, and eventually they will repossess everything I own and send me away.

I worry my animals will get sick or suffer or are suffering now and I don't know it.

I worry that really I'm retarded or crazy and nothing going on around me is real -- I've made it all up -- or else that I do really embarassing things in public but I don't know it and no one is mean enough to tell me.

I worry that secretly people don't like me very much, all their protestations to the contrary.

I worry I will get rabies. I worry I already have rabies. I always worry about whether I'm coming down with some exotic illness.

I worry I wil never be able to clean the house again and it will turn into a festering pit of filth.

I worry that a tornado will come and my computer will be destroyed and so will everything I've ever written, or else I won't be able to save my pets, or both.

I worry that I'll reach my credit limit on my credit card and THEN what will I do and how will I pay for everything? Oh, wait, that already happened today. Fuck.

-- Anonymous, October 13, 2000



I worry perpetually. I can't seem to separate the emotional from the rational thought processes. If I rationalize one worry, then it cascades into something else on the same thread. I worry about all angles. My mother once said, "you just always have to have something to worry about." Which *really* pissed me off. Gee, even more so now that I think about it because she is trying to interject herself into my life and claims it's because she's worried about me. They say that 99% of worries don't come true. Well, that simply doesn't apply to me. Most do come true, but I should quite thinking about it until the inevitable happens. I don't worry about people dying. They've done it a lot to me, damn mortaliy. I just don't take people for granted.

-- Anonymous, October 13, 2000

I worry I'm going to be late. I hate to be late, I think it's just incredibly rude. And yet, I always have to sneak just one more little chore in before taking off for my destination. I give myself mental bonus points for being busy AND on-time.

I've turned my husband into a punctual man, too, which is entirely against his genetic background.

Last weekend I was in Savannah at a really scummy motel. I kept waking up every hour because I was worried I was going to wake up too late in the morning and miss my ring time. I got to hear all kinds of wonderful little interchanges between screaming drunks, crying kids, and the police, which didn't really help my ability to sleep. Does worrying actually do ANY good?

-- Anonymous, October 13, 2000


I've been reading your huge lists of worries, racking my brains to come up with something that I worry about, and it ain't happening. I gave up worrying a long time ago, because it doesn't do any good and I've seen it just completely strap down and chew up some of my friends and family. For what? It sucks to see people you love being held back or derailed by worries.

I guess my worrying is situational. I worry when my wife is late to something and I don't hear from her. I worry when we're on vacation that our pets are being cared for properly. But those and other similar things are specific situations that, once passed, I stop worrying about them.

-- Anonymous, October 13, 2000


I guess it's true, it doesn't pay to worry about things. Cause they're going to happen anyway, right? I have a friend who's going to Ireland for the first time next weekend and she's *freaking* out about the flight there - what a bad way to start your vacation, don't you think?

-- Anonymous, October 13, 2000

No, worrying doesn't really pay, but it's the way some of us are made.

However, linked to the "worrying gene" is the "planning ahead gene." I am, therefore, the most organized person I know and I have a back- up plan when things go wrong. So it's not so bad.

-- Anonymous, October 13, 2000


I agree with Paul 100% and absolutely share his philosophy. I couldn't have expressed it better.

-- Anonymous, October 13, 2000

Thanks, Bubba!

-- Anonymous, October 14, 2000

I'll second that Paul. Worrying only gives you zits. James

-- Anonymous, October 14, 2000

Everything.

My sister worries about virtually nothing. We are only a year apart in age, raised by the same people, so I think that backs up my theory that a lot of it is genetic. If I could change one thing about myself, it would be my tendency to always be anxious and worrying. It sucks. I've spent countless bucks on all sorts of therapy and methods to keep the worrying in check but it's always there to some degree. Blah...

-- Anonymous, October 14, 2000


I probably don't worry enough. I tend to just wing it, rarely plan ahead.

-- Anonymous, October 14, 2000

You're my kind of friend, Jill. Spontenaity is honest and pure, and people who wing it in life walk with angels. Really.

-- Anonymous, October 15, 2000

Actually, I think you can control whether you worry or not. They're just thoughts, right?

-- Anonymous, October 16, 2000

You've got me all wrong, Bubba: I'm runnin' with the devil! ;)

-- Anonymous, October 17, 2000

I used to worry about tons of stuff. I quit when I got on Zoloft. I'm not on Zoloft right now, but I seem to have broken the worry habit -- for the MOST part.

Lately I've been worrying that friends and acquaintances hate me. Isn't that goofy? But I only think about that stuff late at night, at certain times of the month.

-- Anonymous, October 17, 2000


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