your harshest critic

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Is it you, or someone else?

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

Answers

me.

I know I suck.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000


It's me, but I also know that most of the things I think were definitely influenced by what other people think or thought about me at some point, and it just gets combined into one evil nasty heap in the corner of my mind.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

My brother. He's perfect; therefore, the rest of us get to benefit from his example and judgement. How lucky, lucky we are. :)

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

Oh yeah, it's me. I'm not a perfectionist but I do set my standards for myself really super high and I never feel like I'm doing my best. That's not necessarily a bad thing, because it helps drive me, but still.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

I don't even care what anybody else thinks, so this question does not apply to me.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000


Me. I'm kinda a perfectonist, which is hard cause you can't win them all. How sad. Now talking about it has made me feel insecure. Damn it, Mallory! Stop acting like a ninny in front of everyone! Idiot.

-- Anonymous, August 28, 2000

I can be hypercritical of myself in social situations but generally I'm pretty easy on me. Probably too easy. I'm lazy but I don't let it bother me even though it probably should.

-- Anonymous, August 29, 2000

My mother. No, we don't talk anymore.

-- Anonymous, August 29, 2000

Totally me. The breaks I give to other people I NEVER give to myself.

-- Anonymous, August 29, 2000

I don't like to criticise other people, because it often doesn't go down very well. Similarly, I don't want other people to feel awkward when I need some criticism. So I hired a professional critic. His rates are quite high, so I can only afford to have him with me for a few hours each week, during which time, he has to criticise me incessantly and indiscriminately in order to make up for the lack of criticism I receive at other times ie. "I don't think you should be holding your fork like that," and "Can't you walk a bit quicker?" and "Do you have to breath QUITE so regularly?".

I'm not yet sure if his criticism has proved beneficial.

-- Anonymous, August 30, 2000



It's a tie between me and my mother. Just when I think I've found everything I can possibly find to beat myself up over, my mother uncovers a flaw that hasn't been nagged to death yet and starts right on in.

The upside to a maternal nag is that I usually get irritated and start defending myself. It's the only time I'm really, truly verbally nice to myself, I bet.

-- Anonymous, August 30, 2000


Yea! What Milla said. I beat myself up constantly! If it's not over what a disgusting mess my house is, it's that I'm not spending enough time with my son. ARRGH! Then my mother makes matters worse!! i.e. "Ya know, Shanna, you'd be absolutely beautiful--model perfect if you'd lose 15 pounds!" The audacity!! Sometimes I want to scream.

-- Anonymous, August 31, 2000

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