While talking with my girlies, I mentioned that earlier this year I ran into my ex-fiancee and experienced a hatred so visceral and profound I was nauseous. Some of them acted surprised, so I asked if they had ever hated someone that much. Two of them said no, that they'd never hated ANYONE, because it wasn't productive and a waste of time. The other two looked at me and smirked and said that yes, they had. So c'mon, fess up since Sara wants us to start our own threads today...Is there anyone you really, really hate? And why?

-- blanche blank (mireillie@yahoo.com), June 22, 2000

Answers

Lisa Gregory. I haven't seen her since 1980 when we graduated from public school, but the hatred lingers. She was the female class bully, and the reason I am not good in a group dynamic to this day. I know some of you out there are thinking that I'm an adult now, and should have moved past this, but I truly feel most things you experience since Day One make you the person you are today. I won't get into the minutae of eight hellish years; suffice it to say, I hope the farthest she gets in life is success in quoting the phrase, "You want fries with that?"

I'm now 33. Maybe I need some help in letting go of the anger? Or should it stay with me, a constant reminder to NEVER let another person decide my self worth?

-- Meg Stone (Meg_1837@yahoo.com), June 23, 2000.

The brat pack of prom queens i hung out with in junior high. Their conceit and disdain-for-anyone-without-Guess-jeans aside, I worshipped them all and only wanted one thing -- to be a full-fledged member of their crowd. My self-confidence, which was never great to begin with, became dependent on their acceptance of me. I eventually moved away and found real, live *friends*, but I still find myself looking for approval from others to keep my confidence high.

I second the "You want fries with that?" idea...Oh, the joy...

-- tracy (me@belles-lettres.org), June 23, 2000.

My father. I havent seen him in 11 years. I imagine me in a scene with him from the movie Resevior Dogs with "The best is yet to come" by Frank Sinatra playing. While I slowly slice him up.

-- Sheri (_honey__pie@yahoo.com), June 23, 2000.

"blanche" that's probably what I'd do if I saw my ex-fiance. I don't understand people who are friendly with their exes. I just can't do it. If they're gone, they're gone, I don't want to deal with them ever again. Is that hate?

I could say more truthfully, I hate my ex-fiance's family. They made him the black sheep of the family, and continue to do so. Perhaps it's a sign that I still care about him (if not *for* him) that I'd probably slap his mother if we ever met up again.

Grr.

-- The Last Girl Scout (deniseb@wwnet.net), June 27, 2000.

I have yet to meet anyone online or off who is worthy of my hatred. I can give you an almost indefatigible list off annoyances though. Shoo, fly, shoo.

-- Jim Valvis (jvalvis@hotmail.com), July 26, 2000.

Lay off the "Word-A-Day" toilet paper, Jim.

-- Blanche Blank (Mireillie@yahoo.com), July 27, 2000.

Huh? Were those big words? I'm either missing a joke or somebody is missing an education.

-- Jim Valvis (jvalvis@hotmail.com), July 27, 2000.

Missing an education? Yes, as evidenced by someone's incorrect usage of indefatigable in a sentence.

-- matt (pms485@hotmail.com), July 27, 2000.

*chuckles at matt's post*

Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy...I know ALL about you and your shit. The egoism, the overblown verbage, the faint stench of frustrated pseudo- intellectual that comes off of you in waves. I've read your posts on other forums and I know I'm not the only one unimpressed by your spectacularly dull posts.

Your insults are vague and on the level of "Your Momma wears combat boots". If you're going to bait me, make it worth my while, hmm?

-- Blanche Blank (Mireillie@yahoo.com), July 28, 2000.

Blanche, I wonder how Sara feels about you pulling a gripe from another forum over to this one. I can't suppose she likes it much. Show a little respect for her if you can't show any for yourself.

-- Jim Valvis (jvalvis@hotmail.com), July 29, 2000.

Um hmm... so that's how you play it, Jim? I didn't have a gripe in the world with you until you started up with me. If you're going to start stirring shit up, then you're going to have to deal with the fall out.

I have certainly noticed you from the other boards, and it occurs to me if you want to talk about respect, maybe you should start by showing yourself and everyone else some. Quit whining. Quit starting shit, particularly on threads that hadn't had anything posted for almost a month.

Feel free to get the last word in. I'm not going to reply to anything you post from here on out, because god knows I have better things to do with my time than flame with such a massive crybaby. Find a hobby other than being a trouble-maker.

-- Blanche Blank (Mireillie@yahoo.com), July 29, 2000.

Mireille & Jim: I have no idea what's transpired between the two of you on other boards, but you're both important to me as readers. I want this forum to be as flame-war free as posssible. Please, guys, take it back to where it started, or just kiss and make up. Life is short. This is supposed to be fun!

I don't want either one of you to reply to this... I'm not looking for any sort of resolution or answer. I hope you both continue to post here. In peace.

This whole topic has sort of bummed me out.

-- Sara Astruc (astruc@astruc.com), July 29, 2000.

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-- Sara Astruc (astruc@astruc.com), September 10, 2000.