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Did you meet your honey online? If so, tell us the inspiring tale.

-- Anonymous, June 13, 2000

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I actually did meet my homeboy online. He and I were both continuous presences on a local bbs. Neither of us was actively seeking a love connection but we quickly became friends. He even moved to my town shortly after we met, purportedly to attend the local university, but he was too busy spending all his time with me to attend many classes. We have known each other for six years, although there was a year we spent apart. We broke up shortly after I followed him 500 miles on account of a fancy job he got in the gaming industry. I'm not sure why I stayed here after; I guess I knew he'd figure out he'd screwed up. We've been back together for more than a year now and things are better than ever. Maybe because having been alone, we don't take each other for granted. Anyway, I certainly don't reccomend the web as a way to meet people. I met a lot of misfits before I struck gold. Although I do have a friend/coworker who met his boyfriend online. He came all the way from Seattle to be with his love thang down here in Texas and they have been living happily ever after for the last three years. But still, y'all be very careful! Authorities recently discovered a bunch of women's bodies in barrels on a farm in Kansas. The man accusedly responsible had been soliciting s&m partners online.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2000

I meet my psycho online. He sent me pages and pages of beautifully written prose. We first meet in person on the beach in San Diego. Oh, so romantic. His email personality is 180 degrees different than his in-person narcisstic, immature, self-centered, unempathetic, unloving, (add on anything other personality disorder) personality. He moved here to be with me and that lasted 3 months (I'm getting quicker, I'm so proud of myself). The relationship reminds me of my favorite quote, "I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you". At least he wasn't an axe murderer.

-- Anonymous, June 14, 2000

Like Jill, I met my guy on a local BBS we were both mainstays on. I found him quite boring to chat with. That BBS was very social and had parties, get-togethers at pool halls, etc. I ended up meeting him in person at a birthday party for "one of the gang" (a guy who was way too young for me, but who I was seeing anyway.) I remember thinking Ric was really good-looking and had the urge to go over and flirt with him, but I didn't. Ric tells me now that his initial reaction upon meeting me was, "What is she doing with that dorky guy?" A week and a half later, the fling was over with the young guy and I saw Ric at a party. We had what I was sure was the worst one-night-stand in history and I avoided him at parties for a couple of months. (Yeah, I was cheap and easy. So what?) I don't know if this was an omen or what, but I became interested in him again on Halloween while I happened to be wearing my wedding dress from my former marriage. (I had poured fake blood all over it and was carrying a fake knife and a plastic penis.)Can you guess what my online handle used to be? heh I'll spare you any more of the boring details and get to the point... we've been married almost 3 years now and I'm incredibly happy and way oversexed. I have to say, though, that I'm not sure I would recommend trying to find a mate online. I kissed an awful lot of frogs before I met my prince.

-- Anonymous, June 15, 2000

Well, as Gwen already knows, I met my wife through the Internet, and married her 6 days after I met her in Texas. The story made the front page of the Texarkana newspaper, which you can read here:

http://www.geocities.com/BourbonStreet/3957/article.html

-- Anonymous, June 15, 2000


It just occurred to me that a funny story for The Onion would be about people who met online and then hated each other. Or who had a bad one-night stand. Bobbi, you weren't easy. You were just extra womanly.

-- Anonymous, June 15, 2000


I hesitated to write this the other night because my boyfriend was sitting here and I didn't want him saying, "Hey, that's not how it happened!" I like to remember the story the way I remember the story.

I met Durwood in a chatroom called Coffeehse. He came in there because his friend Joey chatted there and his friend had met this chick named Andrea and wanted Durwood to meet her. I watched Durwood in the room for a while before I talked to him - and the reason I talked to him to begin with was because I liked his nickname.

Durwood liked me before I liked him. It became a contest between myself and Andrea to see who could win Durwood's affections, and I won by default when I reminded Durwood that Andrea was married, and I was absolutely and completely available. He told Andrea that he was instantly smitten with me, and I felt bad, because I had just ended an 18-month internet relationship with another guy from Alabama (which was where Durwood lived) and I didn't want anything to do with internet guys anymore. I even made him go to a private room with me one night where I told him that as much as I liked him, there was just no way I was getting involved again, and I was very sorry, but we would never be more than just friends. But, you see, I was lying when I said those things - I was trying to deny how I felt about him because the truth was that I had fallen for him as hard as he had for me. So that speech lasted about 2 days (during which time, I learned that I had made him cry - for real! - and that, as Andrea was constantly telling me, I had him in a "tizzy"), and then I decided I couldn't stay away from him any longer.

We started talking on the phone almost immediately, and it didn't take long before our semi-weekly conversations turned into daily conversations and then into multiple daily conversations. We were talking about him moving out here to California after we had only known eachother about 3 months. It ended up taking 7 months to get him out here (he took a bus, too!). I drove to Bakersfield (about 2 hours south) to pick him up from the bus station, because I wanted to spend some time with him before I brought him to my apartment. I was scared to death, too - I sat in that bus station for 2 hours watching every single person who got off every single bus until his finally arrived. And when I saw him, and he saw me, he stopped outside of the bus station doors and just stood there for a minute and smiled at me. And at that moment, all of my fears and paranoia just went away. He walked in, hugged me (the whole time with this HUGE grin on his face), and walked out of the bus station with his arm around me. He stayed 4 weeks, and then went home for a week, and returned to live with me permanently. He's been here for about 3 1/2 months now, counting those initial 4 weeks.

And that, my friends, is the story of Lauren & Durwood. Mighty inspiring, is it not?

Oh, wait - before I go - let me share this with you. When my mom found out that Durwood was coming out here to meet me, she freaked out. She threatened to cut me out of her life completely, etc. She even stopped speaking to me for a while. She got me so freaked out about the possibility of him being an axe murderer, that the WHOLE first night we spent together (yes, we did sleep in the same bed ON THE FIRST NIGHT! I'm a naughty Catholic girl. =->), I didn't get one minute of sleep. I just laid here cuddled up with him and stared at him ALL NIGHT LONG. That's my favorite part of the story. =-)

-- Anonymous, June 16, 2000


Gasp! Lauren, that's beautiful!

-- Anonymous, June 16, 2000

Thank you, Gwen! =-)

-- Anonymous, June 17, 2000

I met the boy online. He just so HAPPENS to live about 3 miles from me. It was kinda weird, but I am really glad it happened. I have met my share of psychos online, God knows, but I took another chance, and met my best friend. *Wretch* Sorry, not normally this sappy! -Steph

-- Anonymous, June 17, 2000

It wasn't too inspiring. I was working in the University system, and my now-husband was attending school at a different college. There was an online "chat" type program that linked all the state schools together (this was pre-World Wide Web days). Well, I'd just broken up with one guy I met through this method, and Steve asked me to go to one of his frat's parties and I said yes out of revenge for my ex. I was NOT the frat party type (it was my first and last one). Anyway, turns out he was only in the frat because on-campus housing was non-existent and he needed a place to live, we hit it off, and that was fourteen years ago.

-- Anonymous, June 23, 2000


this is my first message here, though i've been a fan of gwen's for quite a while.

i met my boyfriend online. i joined a bbs in new york, and right away had a feeling i was going to meet someone really great. i could even sort of see him, tall, handsome, with great hair.

this bbs did a lot of socializing together, so pretty soon i'd met a few people and even went on "dates" with a couple of them, but it didn't feel right, they weren't *him.*

then one night he emailed me, and after a day or two he asked me to have dinner with him. that was our first date, and he turned out to be tall, handsome, with great hair, and he was crazy about me! our second dates lasted five days. that was six years ago next week. wow.

-- Anonymous, July 18, 2000


I'm a firm believer in the Internet as a way to meet people. I met my honey online, he's a great guy, and I love him to pieces.

-- Anonymous, July 19, 2000

I hope you don't mean that literally, Shiva. You didn't package the pieces in barrels, did you?

-- Anonymous, July 20, 2000

Extra womanly... I'm totally co-opting that, Gwen.

I'm currently in heavy email flirtation with a friend of a friend, who I have never met. He lives in LA. We email 15+ times a day, though, so I feel perfectly justified in calling him my email boyfriend. I mean, I never emailed a real boyfriend that much. Anyway, I'm probably going to LA for New Year's, and if he's cute, perhaps I shall be extra womanly (he already told my friend that if we ever met, we'd probably sleep together, and he's only seen really bad photos of me.) I'll keep y'all posted.

-- Anonymous, July 20, 2000


Hee hee! No, actually, I haven't chopped him up yet. Give me a little time to get to that point.

My parents had a long-distance relationship for five years before they finally got married. They did the snail-mail thing. And they're still together, happily together. I asked my mom if she ever considered divorcing my dad, and she said, "Divorce? Never! Now, murder, yes, I've considered!"

-- Anonymous, July 20, 2000



Cute story about your parents, Shiva. It's interesting that some of the best relationships I've had have been or at least started out long distance. In junior high I had a b-friend who lived two hours away and I only got to see him once every couple of months (he lived in the same town as my grandparents). We wrote each other at least every day. Some days I'd have as many as 4 letters in the box from him. And of course my current sweetie and I started our relationship trading witicisms online. I guess I could never really fall for a guy who couldn't write. Good luck with your e-sweetie, scrnwrt!

-- Anonymous, July 20, 2000

Shiva, did they save any of their letters?

Scrnwrt -- good luck and you go with your extra womanly self!

-- Anonymous, July 20, 2000


Yes they did save their letters, but unfortunately they were all destroyed when my parents' basement flooded recently. I never really got to read them - my mom kept them kind of private. I did see one or two, and a very oblique poem my mom wrote to my dad (I'm assuming it was when she was peeved at him at one point or another.) It went like this:

, you wretched toad! I lift a rock, and there behold.

Uh, okay mom.

-- Anonymous, July 24, 2000


For some reason, that cut off the beginning of the poem, which was my dad's initials.

-- Anonymous, July 24, 2000

i met the htm online in a chat room!!!!! shreek! he told me he licked rilly young chix and im young so i told him to come to me town and he did and when he saw me he sed youll do!!! isnt that sweeet???

it can happen!!!!

-- Anonymous, June 07, 2001


Well, in the final month preceding my divorce decree from Freak-man, I met a guy via an online personals site. I had been very selectively weeding out people becasue I was trying to find out if the kind of man I wanted really did exist. I am happy to report that we are currently rocking each others' world. I was married for 7 years and the marriage sucked. I had not had sex in years. Well... in the 2 months I've been with New Boy, I have made up for that in spades and we are so in tune with each other's minds it's almost scary. I don't know how long-term this will turn out to be, but it's awesome right now. ;-)

-- Anonymous, August 20, 2001

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