How is Sadie Doing?

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Cap,

How is Sadie doing? Haven't had an update in a while.

-- (retired@nd.happy), May 19, 2000

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Retired,

I'm tired, but I'm not retired. :)

-- Maya (Maya@eck.ist), May 19, 2000.


Retired,

Things have not went well with Sadie,the hypothermia treatment that looked so promising has failed.Upon raising her temperature,her brain did not respond well,too much pressure.The doc's have said she is 95% brain dead,she is hanging on through the the use of machines.It looks like her only hope is a true miracle.

I had so hoped to bring better news,but this the the latest report I have recieved(late last night).Thanks for your concern Retired.

-- capnfun (capnfun1@excite.com), May 19, 2000.


Capn,

Will again add her to our prayers, as well as her family with help in making the difficult decisions that may follow if things don't improve.

Sincerely,

Frank

-- Someone (ChimingIn@2twocents.cam), May 19, 2000.


Capn,

I am sorry to hear this. I will keep her and the family in my prayers.

-- Maya (Maya@eck.ist), May 19, 2000.


Geez...that IS sad, Capn.

Several years ago, my brother's youngest son crashed into a pit [without a helmet] while racing dune buggies on the desert. We're talking BIG boy here...over 6' tall, size 15 shoe. He was in an induced coma for 9 months. Once they brought him out of the coma, he never really DID get back his "executive" brain. He can't hold even the simplest job, so lives at home with his mom and dad. His girlfriend moved on after staying by his side for over a year after he got out of the hospital.

Now my brother has prostate cancer, and his biggest fear is NOT for himself, but what how his wife will handle their son if he dies. One thing I can say about my brother is that he can handle ANYTHING. He's like a pillar of strength. I suspect his wife can handle anything as well, and Sadie's parents will cope in the same way.

Bad things happen to good people.

-- Anita (Anita_S3@hotmail.com), May 19, 2000.



To all who are concerned:

Sadie passed away this afternoon,just too much trauma to her brain.

The world will be a little less brighter with the loss of this very adorable,personable and especially articulate little girl.One could tell she had the potential to be a brilliant,as well as beautiful woman,she was allready six goin' on sixteen.

Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts of concern.

-- capnfun (capnfun1@excite.com), May 20, 2000.


Cap:

I'm heartily sorry to hear this news. My oldest son was killed in a traffic accident when he was 19 so I know the pain this family is going through. Please give them my best and let them know that a child never really dies - they just live in your memory forever.

-- Jim Cooke (JJCooke@yahoo.com), May 20, 2000.


Thanks Jim,I remember when my 1st wife died,seeing the pain in her parents eyes,I can still not to this day describe it,that in itself was tragic.Still f****s me up.

At least we "know" she isn't suffering.

-- capnfun (capnfun1@excite.com), May 20, 2000.


Cap:

I'm sorry to hear about the death of your first wife. It seems a personal experience with the death of a loved one who isn't "supposed" to die like a child or young spouse gives one a whole new perspective on the world. Sometimes it seems that someone was put on earth to teach us lessons that we only learn through death. My son died 11 years ago and there's still not a day I don't think of him and wonder what he might have become.

OTOH, his brother, who is one year younger, was headed down a path of drug and alcohol addiction before his brother died and the death turned around his entire life. Through the grace of God and Twelve Step programs, he's been clean and sober for 9 years, went back to college and earned his Master's in Civil Engineering, and is working as an engineer today. He just turned 30 and is getting married to a wonderful girl at the end of the month. Maybe none of this would have happened without the reality of his brother's death.

One of the things I look forward to if there's a heaven and I get in is to ask God a lot of questions about why things like this happen. I know, as a mere mortal, I certainly can't understand it, I can only accept it.

-- Jim Cooke (JJCooke@yahoo.com), May 20, 2000.


Jim,

Sometimes to keep on asking "WHY" is self torture,WHY turns into IF and from there it's downhill.Sometimes I think how happy I am right now but that thought creeps into my mind"WHAT IF",I swear those thought are the most destructive,debilitating thoughts a human can endure.

From what you have said I can imagine the "scenario's" you must have played within your mind.If I may? Did there come a time when you told yourself that you had to quit playing the "what if" game,because you were drivin' yourself crazy?

-- capnfun (capnfun1@excite.com), May 20, 2000.



Capn:

I am very sorry for the loss. Email me, please, i would like to send some flowers, if I may?

Remember what I said...Keep The Faith

Jim: I to have seen tragedy turn to good. I'm sorry as well for your loss, I can not imagine losing a child, I lost my mom and it almost destroyed me, I had nitemares for 5 years after her death. 19 yrs ago and I still miss her. Your post is a 'gem'.

Capn: you got mail before I read this, please email me back, thanks.

-- consumer (shh@aol.com), May 20, 2000.


Capn, Jim, and any others who've had such a loss: It may not help much, but know that someone else had a *much better* plan for those people who were taken, seemingly for no reason.

You all have my deepest sympathies and my prayers.

-- Patricia (PatriciaS@lasvegas.com), May 20, 2000.


Thanks to everyone for your kind words. Cap, I think I gave up thinking about "what if" for my son many years ago. As his birthday comes around, I do tend to think of how he might have been if he had lived but I've come to learb that there's some higher purpose to these things that I just have to accept.

I do find it easier to accept the minor setbacks of life since his death and learned to do things that are more important, like being with my family, and to stop working as hard as I used to (except for Y2K, darn it). I've often thought that people who get all worked up over relatively minor life problems just haven't had enough real tragedy in their lives to help them learn what's important.

-- Jim Cooke (JJCooke@yahoo.com), May 21, 2000.


Patricia,

Thank you very much for your thoughts.

Jim,

I think you summed up a whole lot of emotions in that last post,I am still having trouble though with "the higher purpose" thing.Personaly I think I'm feeling a shift and acceptance of a long held theory ie.God sets us in motion and life happens to us along the way.(condensed version)

I think it even reflects on our personas on the board,the little shit really doesn't make a big whoop in the larger scheme of things,IMHO.

-- capnfun (capnfun1@excite.com), May 21, 2000.


Dear capnfun---

I am very sorry to hear about Sadie. I send my heartfelt sympathy.

-- Pam (jpjgood@penn.com), May 21, 2000.



This poem once brought me great comfort and I hope it helps anyone who may be struggling with the loss of a loved one. My prayers are with you Capn...

Old Souls (by Paul Williams)

Our love is an old love.

It's older than all our years.

I have seen in strange young eyes familiar tears.

We're old souls in a new life.

They gave us a new life to live and learn.

Some time to touch old friends, and still return.

Our paths have crossed and parted.

This love affair was started long, long ago.

This love survives the ages.

In its story, lives are pages.

Fill them up - may ours turn slow.

Our love is a strong love.

We give it all and still receive.

So with empty arms we must still believe...

All souls last forever so we need never fear goodbye.

A kiss when you must go.

No tears...in time we kiss hello.

-- LunaC (LunaC@LunaC.com), May 21, 2000.


Capn:

I am so sorry for your loss- and the loss of this board's extended family. If there is anything you need, please ask. We are here for you.

-- Aunt Bee (SheriffAndy@Mayberry.com), May 22, 2000.


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