Throw any tantrums lately?

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What about?

-- Ann Monroe (monroe@chorus.net), May 12, 2000

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No, but maybe I should now and then. I never did the tantrum thing. Instead, when circumstances initiate it, I seethe ... fume ... boil ... scowl ... glare.... Rarely, though, do I even feel the need to do even that much. I'm much more sangfroid and even-tempered than I used to be, which in the main is more contructive and beneficial to my physical/emotional/spritual well-being than volcanic eruptions would be. It won't be a heart attack that eventually kills me, and certainly not one based in unchecked emotional in(ex)ternalization. (Occasional bouts of road rage don't count -- that's just plain naural behavior, right?)

Still ... nevertheless ... on the other hand ... there have been and are times when a full-bore all-out tantrum aimed at the correct person or circumstance would *feel so good*, and I wonder if there have been one or two times in my life when a properly directed tantrum would have made life and the universe a little better.

We recently threw a big party, at which were people whose lack of professional and personal acumen, ethics and responsibility have caused numerous people we care about a great deal professional, personal and financial pain. Being a person whose inhibitions (of all stripes) melt away under the influence (which can be a positively entertaining experience for all concerned), I made a point of not imbibing in any alcohol, not even a Guinness, throughout the evening, out of concern of throwing a very publc tantrum and telling said offenders exactly what I think of them and what they have done to people I care about. Would have destroyed what was otherwise a splendid party -- and besides, there more contructive and effective ways of airing those particular views.

Still ... nevertheless ... on the other hand ... it would have felt *so good.*

-- Mark (mbourne@sff.net), May 14, 2000.


Teaching preschoolers with autism can be a trying ordeal indeed. I have been kicked, hit, bit, etc. Sometimes I'll get to the point where I'm positive that letting go and just yelling is going to feel so good, and it still makes me feel like shit every time. I know they can't help the way they are, and I usually don't lose it unless I'm over-stressed and over-tired. There are plenty of other people more deserving of my anger such as school administrators, but they cleverly hide themselves behind secretaries & voice mails. I also have trouble dealing with some republican-minded relatives, but I try to be the better person & walk away from fights. People you go off on don't usually hear anything you say, anyway.

-- AJ (joijoijoi@hotmail.com), May 14, 2000.

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