Wife getting disgusted that I read this site every day. Anybody else have this problem?greenspun.com : LUSENET : TimeBomb 2000 (Y2000) : One Thread
I spend several hours every evening reading the Yourdon posts.
My wife is disgusted! This is time that I could be using to prepare for Y2K.
The trouble is, I'm hooked. This forum is habbit forming. Anybody else have this problem? How do I wean myself?
-- smitty (email@example.com), April 05, 1999
had same problem---sometimes still do...best cure has been to get busy with the "actions" instead of filling my head with too much information. found early on I spent many many hours before and after (but never during) work reading these posts and jumping to other sites for more information. each piece of new information is rather thought provoking but I needed actions---so I took them---starting with going out and taking my wife along to buy a generator, buy gold coins, get both of us gun id's so we could buy guns, she bought food, and i bought hw and other supplies---I got her a police scanner, and my kid a portable cb for them to start getting used to---so i guess I have included them in the "action" part of this whole subject--- instead of the over self indulging with no action nor involvement from them that I was doing getting buried in this board...anyway thats my story and I;m sticking to it.
-- billy boy (firstname.lastname@example.org), April 05, 1999.
Well, first give her the cold shoulder. Then begin yelling at her whenever she complains about your habbit. Finally, start cleaning your gun whenever she enters the room. That should pretty much wean you of her.
-- a (email@example.com), April 05, 1999.
..It depends if you are on tan minutes or ten hours...I carry on a da of our family shelving business and church organ at night and weekends. If you lay low in publcabout your y2k concerns or hearlittle that is constructive, then you need an info and emotional outlet that the forum allows. I have only run into a few GIs in public when the topic comes up, but have had to endure a friendly but pestering manager friend that goads me about our preparations. I would think that one would need to wean ones self from booze or riotous living rather than decreasing contact with this forum. I have only begunto post here after six months of observing because the folks here have been my balance to the other world out there. Just be sure that your family and day to day businss is kept in perspective
-- churchorganist (firstname.lastname@example.org), April 05, 1999.
just the opposite actually - my fiancee' is glad that I'm watching this stuff - not only for us, but I also pass many things on as news- gatherer for several other groups of folks who are preparing. Indeed the links to news items I've gleaned from this website have been used to substantially expand the number of folks preparing both among our friends and relatives and in our parish.
-- Arlin H. Adams (email@example.com), April 05, 1999.
Yes, my significant other does not appreciate me being on the computer all the time. I do spend a lot of time between my selling on ebay and my reading the forums. Like churchorganist,I believe it gives me some balance between the outside world which seems to be all boom times around here and the y2k possibly bad future.Without the forums I would just lapse back into DGI.
Also for me , everything is at a standstill until we get moved. Then the real preps will begin! With warmer weather, I'm sure we'll all be busier with gardens, outside work, etc.
You might try bringing good articles to her attention and sharing them with her and telling her about other things as you read.
-- sue (firstname.lastname@example.org), April 06, 1999.
All My lovely says is: " What did you print for me to read?"
-- Art Welling (email@example.com), April 06, 1999.
Hey, come on Smitty's wife, chill out. It could be worse, he could be seeing another woman! Don't spoil the mans pleasure, it's harmless fun, although I would insist he tries to spend a little less time on the forum and perhaps more time on yourself.
-- Jude Cooney (Jcooney@figroup.co.uk), April 06, 1999.
I think I've got the opposite problem, wife say "DO NOT SPEND ANY MORE MONEY ON Y2K", "Go to some chat room and get it out of your system there" Well lets just hope I am fairly well finished with my preparations...... Time will tell.
-- helium (firstname.lastname@example.org), April 06, 1999.
I sympathize, I admit, with your wife. Preparing is something you could do together, this is something you do alone. I would get pissed, too, if my husband were to spend the best hours of every evening on a regular basis on anything that excluded me. After all, I married him because I like his company. I could understand an affair better than that kind of time on a computer- or in front of the TV- no matter what the topic. Try agreeing on a specific time frame and sticking to the most interesting topics you can get to in that time frame. Then turn it off. That way you are ensured time to keep informed, she is ensured that isn't all you do. Otherwise, your wife will be hoping the grid goes down with y2k, she will be looking forward to it, just to get some company. And you will be substituting warm fuzzy informed feelings for actual preparation. Good luck!
-- Maria (email@example.com), April 06, 1999.
Just get away from this stupid Y2K obsession for awhile. Take your wife somewhere.
-- get away, you're (firstname.lastname@example.org), April 06, 1999.
Damned Internet cost me my 1st marriage. Got home from work everyday and there was the wife, planted at her desk, yakin' away on the PC. Stood it for a few years, pleaded my case, then got a lawyer (which didn't do me any good as hers raked my ass thru the hot coals!).
Get a life away from the PC. Do things TOGETHER, and it probably doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do them together. Gardening, ballgames, physical fitness, etc.... there are a million things you guys could do.
Sincerely wish you luck!
-- Deano (email@example.com), April 06, 1999.