A few threads back I told the forum that I lost my only son. This is the rest of the story; my son was in the hospital for 2 weeks. He had 2 doctors I'll call one the good doctor and one the bad doctor. The bad doctor wanted to drop my son's temperature and keep him alive at $8000.00 a day. This we did for 2 weeks with zero results. Then the bad doctor had to leave town and the good doctor said it was time to raise his temp. The good doctor said that we would find what they had known all along, that there was nothing there. The good doctor told me "your son came in dead and all they had done was run up a huge medical bill". Shortly after that we lost him. Shortly after that the good and bad doctors stopped working together and don't even speak to each other! My point is you need to know the truth and it's better sooner than later. Come clean on y2k and let the people do what they must. I would rather know now and have time to prepare than to have a bombshell dropped on me. Maybe I am wrong however this is how I operate. Tman

-- Tman (Tman@IBAgeek.com), February 21, 1999

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Tman, I just went in and hugged my sons. My heart is heavy for you.

-- Lon Frank (postit@here.com), February 21, 1999.

Tman,

It is with great sorrow that a parent looses a child. My sympathy goes out to you and your family.

FEMA has said "prepare for the worst and hope for the best".

The point of this is that no one knows exactally what is going to happen. The truth is that it is a wait and see type senario. There are NO GUARANTEES IN ANYTHING *EVER*.

-- A Parent (beenthere@donethat.com), February 21, 1999.

Please know that you will be in my prayers. The truth is best no matter how bad, I think. At least then you know what you have to work with. May you find some comfort in God and Love and Friends.

-- a mom (praying@love.com), February 21, 1999.

We drift through life making decisions and taking chances everyday. Sometimes we make a left when we should have made a right. Sometimes we listen to reason and abide by it and sometimes we're so angry or distraught that we take the foolish way. I call it experiencing the pains of living on this earth. There's nothing you can do to change the past, absolutely nothing. Though I regret many things in my life, I don't dwell on them, I only learn from them. It's a terrible thing to lose a loved one, it hurts and it pains you. No one can say for a certainity what the future holds. We often make plans that fall through and some that go as expected. I have nothing to lose in preparing for what could be a potential disaster. I would rather error on the side of safety than on the side of disaster. May peace be with you my friend.

-- bardou (bardou@baloney.com), February 21, 1999.

Thinking of you and yours at this time.

Some medical decisions seem incomprehensible to me also. What I do know is there is nothing that compensates for the death a loved one in the time of numbness that follows. I felt extremely angry about my recent loss. I also realised that my anger would damage me personally and the best outcome, if I followed that anger, would be a richer lawyer and a poorer me.

May you have the peace you need to get from this day to the next and all the other days and years ahead of you.

-- Bob Barbour (r.barbour@waikato.ac.nz), February 21, 1999.

My son is my only child and I cannot imagine losing him. Tman, I'm dreadfully grieved for you, what a searing loss. You'll be in my thoughts, now and for a long time to come.

-- Old Git (anon@spamproblems.com), February 22, 1999.

"It is not in the natural order for a parent to bury a child"

(Unknown via my mom)

My prayers for you and your recovery from the effects of your grief.

Chuck, who has lost a parent, and can only try to understand the loss of a child.

-- Chuck, night driver (rienzoo@en.com), February 22, 1999.

Tman,

"We would not have you to be without understanding about those who die, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will raise with Him those who have fallen asleep. For this we declare to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, shall not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the archangel's call, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first; then we who are alive who are left, shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air; and so we shall always be with the Lord. Therefore COMFORT ONE ANOTHER WITH THESE WORDS." - Apostle Paul 1 Thessalonians 4:14-18

Our pain, that's why He came. Reunion day... not far away. Have faith. Pastor Brown

It seems that the mystery of y2k involves embedded chips. There has always been serious concern about them until some of the recent 'no problem' reports from recent testing. Most are waiting to 'fix on failure'. Problem is...we can't wait to prepare on failure. Preparation is prudent.

-- BBrown (peace2u@bellatlantic.net), February 22, 1999.

Tman,

My deepest sympathies are with you and your family in this time of loss. Your point is well taken; I cannot fathom losing my son, and my preparations are directly related to mitigating that possibility. I believe it's worth the few thousand dollars and inconvience of moving to provide him with a better chance at survival should Y2K be serious. My son is worth the effort, expense, and enduring the snide comments of those who think I'm a wacko. God be with you, Tman.

-- Nabi Davidson (nabi7@yahoo.com), February 22, 1999.

Tman,

So sorry to hear of your dreadfull loss - I suffered a similar fate too many years ago and it still hurts.

-- Andy (2000EOD@prodigy.net), February 22, 1999.

Tman,

Ten months ago, about the time I started to become Y2K ready, my sister's 12-year old son was struck by a car and killed. My sister's and niece's grief, our family grief was and is not describable in words. Life-changing. I had been conscious of the fragility of human existence prior to Billy's death, but since I, none of us see things in the same way. Our perspectives are forever altered. Not a day goes by,...My heart flies out to you and your family. My thoughts during the first months were, "I would die if this happened to one of my children." And of course the huge awful irony is that you don't die. Warm golden light from me to you.

I'm with you on wanting to know the truth,...the straight stuff. If I could say only one thing to those putting happy face spin on Y2K that would be it. Tell the truth!

-- Donna Barthuley (moment@pacbell.net), February 22, 1999.

Tman,

I must have missed that thread.

I'm so sorry for you. Any loss hurts deeply, and the agony is compounded with a lack of truth.

Life/Death is still a circle, whether we are aware or not.

Still feeling the loss of my Dad over 11 years ago, and I KNOW he's fine. We're the ones with "problems" now.

Diane

-- Diane J. Squire (sacredspaces@yahoo.com), February 22, 1999.

Tman - Ya got me to hug my kids hard and tell them how much I love them. No parent should ever have to suffer the agony of out-living their children. My deepest condolences to you and yours.

Deano

-- Deano (deano@luvthebeach.com), February 22, 1999.

Thank-you for your prayers and support there are a lot of great people on this forum. I just feel that somewhere someone knows what is coming even if it is only to a degree. Someone in government has the data and the stats to build a picture or model of what is to come. To that someone I say TELL US! Because it will be too late otherwise.

-- Tman (Tman@IBAgeek.com), February 22, 1999.

T-Man, read the GAO report from Jan. 20, it's as straight as you're going to get from the government.

http://www.gao.g ov/cgi-bin/getrpt?T-AIMD-99-50

I add my echo what the others have said regarding your son. Keep your courage.

-- Chris (catsy@pond.com), February 22, 1999.

T-man, whenever you lost your son, it is both too recent and far too long ago. My prayers are with you.

Regardless of what the government says, or 'knows', preparation is wise, for none here see the future with perfect foresight. My wish for a really reliable crystal ball has not yet been answered positively :-(

-- Tricia the Canuck (jayles@telusplanet.net), February 23, 1999.