Hi,

I am a roman catholic. Is it possible for me to get marry to a guy who is hindu. I want my marriage to be happened in Church. My lover don't want to get converted to christianity but he don't have any objection in me continuing as a christian and he is ready to accept our kids to be baptised. Is this possible?

If so what kind of permission to be obtained from churches to make it happen?

Thank you for any guidance.

-- Shalini (ashalini_2001@yahoo.com), June 29, 2003

Answers

Response to Is it possible to marry a hindu guy

Dear Shalini,

In my country Malaysia, a Catholic can marry a Hindu or Buddist guy/girl in the Catholic Church but there will be NO Mass or Holy Communion. It is just a wedding ceremony. My brother who got married last month to a Buddist girl in the Church with just the ceremony and the Priest blessing. I do not know anything about the Catholic Church in America or other parts of the world.

God bless

-- (vincentkoh@pd.jaring.my), June 30, 2003.

Response to Is it possible to marry a hindu guy

Hello, Vincent, my friend.
Congratulations to your brother!
I believe that the same discipline that you described (concerning Malaysia) is observed around the world.
John

-- J. F. Gecik (jfgecik@hotmail.com), June 30, 2003.

Response to Is it possible to marry a hindu guy

Even i m in the same situation. > U can go ahead with a court marraige. Both can keep ur own religions. > U can marry in church,(I stay in bombay suburbs) Here in India, u can marry in church without converting him. THe MASS will b offered, but the marraige rituals will b performed either before or after MASS, as per ur wish ( IT wont form a part of MASS as both r not Catholics). there are some formalities to b done for which u contact ur parish priest or a priest who has studied the canon law. > thirdly , u both can get married in court first then both the rituals later , so that u dont get converted to Hindu. U will get converted to Hindu if u get "Shuddhi-karan" i.e. PURIFICATION done as per Hindu rituals.

> I M NOT VERY SURE ABOUT THE THIRD OPTION, BUT PLS LET ME KNOW IF U GET ANY INFO ON THIS, COZ EVEN I DONT WANNA CONVERT BUT WANT MY MARRAIGE TO B AS PER BOTH RITUALS.

-- Sheetal D'Mello (sheetaldmello@yahoo.com), July 02, 2003.

Shalini,

If you love the guy, why not accept his traditions, religion, and family? An ideal marriage is not just one between two persons, but between two families. How do you think his family will feel if you only allow your future kids to be brought up as Christian? You are being fundamentalist in just "loving" the guy physically yet not accepting a mental and psychological amalgam of the two! You want to hold on to your religion, and so does he. How can this work out when for inner peace, you two think of 'God' and 'salvation' in so different terms!

If you can't accept Hinduism, then I do not see how your marriage can be a success in the long run. It is "Forever", you know! Think about it.

Good luck, Himanshu Vyas

-- Himanshu Vyas (himanv@yahoo.com), June 27, 2004.

Shalini, If you love the guy, why not accept his traditions, religion, and family?

{Because she accepts the Lord Jesaus Christ, whi came and died for her sins. She accpets his attonement and accepts him as saviour, and hopefully he coms firts in her life, not her husband, or anyhtign else. You may think Christianity is nothing, but to those who are Christian, to surrender Christ is unthinkable, onsiderign his love and truth for us.}-Zarove

An ideal marriage is not just one between two persons, but between two families.

{Agreed.}-Zarove

How do you think his family will feel if you only allow your future kids to be brought up as Christian?

{Why not offer them a choice? And is it so wrogn to impart these laues? After all, Hinduism doesnt state it is the way, truth,a nd light, and acdpts lternatives, Christianity on the other hand offers the only eman of salvation.

Hinduism offers a cycle of rebirth till you pay off the cosmic debt of yuor sins, Christainity offers release in this life of your sins.Its a better offer really.}-Zarove

You are being fundamentalist in just "loving" the guy physically yet not accepting a mental and psychological amalgam of the two!

{The term "Fundamentalist" is rendered as an insul these days, but in relity bu charecterising fundamentalists in such a way, yo show your own intoelrence and bigotry.

Likewise, Catholics arent fundamentalists, which displays remarkable ignorance on yuor own part. Fundamentalists beleiv in Sola scriptura. Catholcis do not.

No, she isnt just lovign him ohysically, however, she canno reject her Lord, this seems the only way to go, to marry him and live with him as a devoted wife, while serving her Lord as best she can. Since she and her Husband seem t not mind each other and agre o this arrangement, it si wrogn to suggest this will put undie psycological stress upon them, and nothign but a tacitc to use agaisnt Chrstaisn in yor own favour.}-Zarove

You want to hold on to your religion, and so does he. How can this work out when for inner peace, you two think of 'God' and 'salvation' in so different terms!

{Its called " Dialouge", and he art of diplomacy. Poepel can have nothign in coon and be the best of friends, or be near identical and be bitter enemies.

Love transcends concepts, and cna unify them in its own ways, and they, so long as they remain respectful of each others beleifs and thoughts, shoiudl see no real difficulty.}-Zarove

If you can't accept Hinduism, then I do not see how your marriage can be a success in the long run. It is "Forever", you know! Think about it.

{ If you are so limited, and seek to force ehr to accept Hinduism over christ , I sugest you examien your own motive, which are manifest here as less than oure.

Poepel make duel rleigion marriages work all the time, and if they are reasobale about it, it seems strange that you shoudl think this shoudl be such a divisive issue for them. who are you to limit them in hppiness or conduct?}-Zarove

Good luck, Himanshu Vyas

-- ZAROVE (ZAROFF3@JUNO.COM), June 27, 2004.