Well, my much-beloved Yuppie Boyfriend and I have finally parted ways for good (I think- we've broken up a bunch of times before this, lol). It occurs to me that maybe this time I should look for a guy who is more into the homesteading/CS lifestyle, but where does a girl begin? Any advice from you ladies that are happily hitched up?

-- Elizabeth (ekfla@aol.com), November 13, 2001

Answers

Hi Elizabeth... when you find him, send me his clone :)

-- Carole (carle@earthlink.net), November 13, 2001.

Hey Elizabeth, I wished upon a meteor. lol Really. I was a happy single woman, who owned her own farm, but something was missing. My perfect mate. One night as I lay in bed praying, I looked out the window as a meteor shower wizzed by in the clear sky. Being a child at heart, I couldn't let such a special moment go by without an innocent wish. So, I asked God to bring me a husband that would want the farm as much as I do. He did. But the best part of it is that we want each other more than the farm. God did good. That's what love is all about, isn't it?

-- Iris (Sar_India@msn.com), November 13, 2001.

Elizabeth, I wish I had the answer to that question. If you find out let me know cause the men around here think the whole lifestyle is too much work. My beloved ex wanted all the livestock to be pets and for both of us to stay home.

-- Karen in Kansas (kansasgoats@iwon.com), November 13, 2001.

I don't know, I don't have the perfect homesteading man. Oh, he builds and fixes stuff around the farm- when I ask, but, deep down inside, I know he lusts for a split level on a half acre in the 'burbs rather than a wood heated log cabin on 113 acres in boonie land. I guess I have to keep him tho--we've been together 20 years.

Good luck in your quest.

Stacy in NY

-- Stacy (KincoraFarm@aol.com), November 13, 2001.

you caould ask Ken to put in a singles ad column :),, or ask ME,, IM soooooo perfect LOL

-- stan (sopal@net-port.com), November 13, 2001.

Actually, I have to confess, I'd settle for a less-than-perfect guy if he would just put up with the bees, chickens, worms, plants, etc. Besides, that would take some of the pressure off of me to be perfect, LOL.

-- Elizabeth (ekfla@aol.com), November 13, 2001.

I have all those,, can cook,, and I work ( WOW )

-- stan (sopal@net-port.com), November 13, 2001.

I found my hubby of 12 years through the personals. My boss wanted me to meet people my own age, I was new to the States from England and hubby was one of the 120 people that replied to the ad. After less than 6 months of dating we were married.

-- Anita in NC (anitaholton@mindspring.com), November 13, 2001.

Wow! Anita, that must have been some killer ad! Got any tips?

-- Elizabeth (ekfla@aol.com), November 13, 2001.

You have to go where they hang out. The Cattle Auction or Horse Auction. Horse shows. Help with 4-H kids. You know there is alot of single dads out there. Working Dog shows. You might even look around at the feed store LOL they are always real friendly in there. They think its funny I come in and get corn for the quail and deer out at my place and hang around and talk, and I am a big old gal that is married. Just remember the easyest way to catch a man is try not to. LOL

-- Teresa (c3ranch@socket.net), November 13, 2001.

I had wonderful luck with a Yahoo personals ad.

-- Christine Young (Christine_Young@Brown.edu), November 13, 2001.

if you should happen to find an extra one who is about 60 and lives in central florida who is nice could you e-mail me. i need to find my mother a man. she's been alone for 2 yrs and i have to get her set up with someone who likes the country life. no more city gents for my mom, she has soften up in the past few years and needs to have someone who can teach her to enjoy life out-of-doors.

-- george (bngcrview@aol.com), November 13, 2001.

try finding one when you're 19! Buying land and raising animals and kids aren't exactly high on most guys my age list of priorities. In fact, this list is usually topped by getting drunk and smoking weed! at least you're past this stage! I'm about to start hitting on the 30 year-olds, at least they might be ready!

-- Elizabeth(yes, another liz) (Lividia66@aol.com), November 13, 2001.

Am I the only lucky one to have a wonderful Homesteading husband ?? !! Have been married now for almost 36 years...has it really been that long ??!! We sort of grew into homesteading together and I can not imagine not having him with me. Guess I was lucky again when I met him at 18 years old. Don't have much advice for all of you gals. Just keep looking but make sure he is really what you are looking for. I can't think of what would be worse that having a fella' that isn't working towards the same goals as you are. The old MENS magazines use to have the "lonely hearts" ad... maybe you could place an ad...you never know !! Good Luck !!

-- Helena (windyacs@npacc.net), November 13, 2001.

Stan, what are you going to do if she takes you up on your offer?! Can I be a fly on the wall?

Elizabeth, I didn't marry a homesteader. I married a chef, who loves to have good ingredients to cook with, then I grew them and told him about them and cultivated the need. Now we each have our own projects and enjoy sharing them with each other and also do a lot of projects together. Life is good.

-- sheryl in Me (radams@sacoriver.net), November 13, 2001.

I'm just recently married, but was lucky to find the perfect homesteading husband! My trick? I was just being a happy, well- adjusted, independent single woman and he fell in my lap. Fortunately, this perfect homesteading husband is a perfect match for me.....he cooks, does dishes and cleans(I HATE all those things!), tolerates all my kooky ideas, likes gardening, enjoys caring for the animals and bought me a cute little farm house in the country on 5 acres. As a matter-of-fact, this evening I spent out in the garage building a temporary duck enclosure for our ducks that will probably be coming this weekend while my husband was in the house doing dishes and soaking beans for tomorrow's dinner (unfortunately, he's not muc of a handyman). ;o) Sorry girls, he has no brothers......

Anyway, as hard as it might seem, the best way to attract a man is to be yourself and do things you enjoy.....he'll show up when you least expect it!

-- Lisa - MI (lambrose@summitpolymers.com), November 13, 2001.

This is what I did to become very happily married. I STOPPED LOOKING!! I was fed up with all the jerks I kept meeting and then it dawned on me... I didn't need a man to be happy. I was perfectly capable of being happy with MYSELF. I could be who I WANTED to be, do what I wanted, when I wanted and not have to put up with someone else's BS. There's a big difference between being alone and lonely. So I was very committed to living alone and actually looked forward to becoming an eccentric 'old maid'. And I was truly happy for the first time in my life. I finally knew who I was and what I liked and what I wanted out of my life.

Then the unexpected happened. People moved into the house next door!! To understand why this was such a surprise, you have to know that that house probably could have been condemned!! I was really enjoying not having any neighbors and then these people show up, fixing the house and living there!! Any way, one of those 'people' turned out to be my future husband. We met as neighbors, became friends, and then fell in love with the person we already knew. Neither of us was searching for another person to "make" us happy and I feel that enabled us to recognize the RIGHT person.

So... We've been married for 8 years (have known each other for almost 10), have 3 beautiful children, and have discovered TOGETHER that we wanted to have an organic farm and that what we were doing was called homesteading. We are really looking forward to when he no longer needs to work off the farm and we can finally work together here, too. I am looking forward to becoming an eccentric old homesteader WITH my best friend!

-- Bren (wayoutfarm@skybest.com), November 13, 2001.

13 posts down. His name is Justin. The best ones are taken or gay.

-- Kathy (catfish201@hotmail.com), November 13, 2001.

Kathy sometimes they are just old. Bob se,ks.

-- Bobco (bobco@kans.com), November 13, 2001.

Bobco, I have an old one, and they work good, too!

-- Kathy (catfish201@hotmail.com), November 13, 2001.

I hate to tell you this Elizabeth, but I, the perfect guy, am already taken. And I don't believe my wife will be letting me go very soon. So you may just have to settle for the second best. Good luck!

-- r.h. in okla. (rhays@sstelco.com), November 13, 2001.

My wife says she not only has an old one,but "second hand" to boot. But she's happy cause even though I run a little rough, my engine still heats up enough to plow like a new tractor every so often. We just stay away from dances at our sons school. :>)

-- Jay Blair in N. AL (jayblair678@yahoo.com), November 13, 2001.

Just be careful Elizabeth--some folks are threatened by any any mention of sexual orientation on this forum.

I hope you find a great guy. Have you checked out the local Audubon hikes, co-op gatherings, natural living classes? I can give you some leads in WV...if that helps.

-- Anne (HealthyTouch101@wildmail.com), November 13, 2001.

Get back in there Stan !!! I think they were starting to come around!!!

-- Glenn (gj_usa1@msn.com), November 13, 2001.

ok here is three who jump to mind Stan [ as he points out] ken and dont know what he posts as now but greenbean man also.Wouldnt it be great to get a countryside marrage because of this forum? If it happens let us know.

-- kathy h (ckhart55@earthlink.net), November 13, 2001.

kathy h, you don't know who because he's not for publication (that's "n-f-p-"in quotes) anymore.

On another thread, Elizabeth, you could try looking offshore (or internationally - Canada as well). Now, I'm not putting myself forward as the answer to your prayers - I'm not perfect, or even close (and you can certainly read that geographically as well). However, I'd be right for someone, and vise versa. And I regret to say there are many better than me in Australia. Probably some in the UK. Possibly even some in New Zealand. Actually, although it hurts to say it, very probably some in NZ.

-- Don Armstrong (from Australia) (darmst@yahoo.com.au), November 14, 2001.

Do what my daughter did! Have Mom find a man for you! Seriously, I met this nice young man and, with a bit of maneuvering, got them together. What can I say! Five years later, they're married, living one mile down the road from us and have a wonderful family!

-- Ardie/WI (ardie54965@hotmail.com), November 14, 2001.

Have to ditto livestock auctions, farm auctions,feed stores, any where like monded people may be .You also have to be open to an age difference.

-- Patty {NY State} (fodfarms@slic.com), November 14, 2001.

I understand many churches have periodic single meetings/dances. Once the word gets around you are single, I suspect the older match makers there will get busy. Set your standards in advance.

While I am single, I am also commitment disadvantaged. I second the saying about being a big difference between living alone and living lonely.

-- Ken S. in WC TN (scharabo@aol.com), November 14, 2001.

Ken , you just have been hooked with the right bait yet ! Hehe

-- Patty {NY State} (fodfarms@slic.com), November 14, 2001.

I'm afraid some of us single guys are beyond hope.

For myself, I live on my 160 acres 28 miles from the nearest town, too far away from civilization for most. Tho alone, I'm not lonely, most of the time. The mere thought of "dating" someone scares the hell out of me.

How's that old tune go, "I've grown accustomed to my cows..."

bruce

-- bruce (rural@inebraska.com), November 14, 2001.

Bruce all woman aren't that scary!!!

-- Patty {NY State} (fodfarms@slic.com), November 14, 2001.

Go to farm auctions and find the guy that buys all the JUNK and find out what he is going to do with it. If it sounds interesting and he is unattached.......well, ask if you can help.

-- diane (gardiacaprines@yahoo.com), November 14, 2001.

I married already and I'm getting shivers reading some of these "huntress trapping secrets". Have single guys ever had a chance for escape ? :>)

-- Jay Blair in N. AL (jayblair678@yahoo.com), November 14, 2001.

well , i have some two pronged advice , one is how i did it , i looked and looked and gave up , when i gave up , i met my now husband , through a personals ad that was due to be cancelled the next day , it was , and we did , and now married , have farm and all my animals , and the other day he says to me , i think we should get some chickens , gotta love it

but my best advice , is be positive ,let everyone know you are looking , but not desperate , go to where the men you want are , talk to other farm wives in your area , get on some of the country living singles places ,be willing to wade through a lot of rubbish to find your gem.

good luck , you know , stan might be worth looking into :)

Beth

-- Beth Van Stiphout (willosnake@hotmail.com), November 14, 2001.

I think that's an oxymoron, perfect..... & man?

-- Rose Marie Wild (wintersongfarm@yahoo.com), November 14, 2001.

Get a job in a lumber yard. I did (a long time ago) and met Mr. S. If it doesn't work, well....at least you can make a little money! LOL

-- sheepish (the_original_sheepish@Hotmail.com), November 14, 2001.

Sounds like you are on the right track to finding someone, maybe you post alittle about yourself, rough age you are looking for and what location. Hobbies and things of that nature, not that you have many hobbies out of homesteading, but who knows.

-- Dave (DR43147@yahoo.com), November 14, 2001.

Join a rural church. Nicer set to choose from. Easy social situations and sometimes fun trips to meet people. Also, your church friends will know other eligible, like minded folks.

-- Ann Markson (tngreenacres@hotmail.com), November 14, 2001.

Stop looking for the "perfect man" -- he doesn't exist -- besides, who would want to live with perfection???? Too much to live up to!

Be yourself and do things that you enjoy -- no use going on "nature hikes" if you're not going to have time for that later.Wouldn't it be horrible if you missed the "right" one while you were looking for perfection?

-- Tracy (trimmer31@hotmail.com), November 14, 2001.

Au contraire, Tracy! It's just that I'm taken!

-- Brad (homefixer@SacoRiver.net), November 14, 2001.

I tell people that at my age, men are like parking spaces: The good ones are already taken, and the ones that are left are "handicapped".

-- Bonnie (chilton@stateline-isp.com), November 14, 2001.

Elizabeth, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about concerning the scarcity of available, like-minded young men in our age group (I'm 20) out there. I don't think this is only a problem for our generation- from what I've seen most of the people on the Countryside forum are misfits in one way or another- just about everyone feels strongly about something, be it religion, total self sufficiency, living a life that's balance with nature, etc. and that leads them to follow a somewhat different path. So if you're looking for a misfit, go where the misfits are! Based on your interests and the demographics where you are, you might find someone in a theatre group, yoga or meditation class, role playing guild... the possibilities are endless. Of course the suggestion about nature or farming groups is great too, just don't limit yourself! I also agree wholeheartedly with the suggestion to "stop looking". If you meet guys on a friend basis, there's less pressure to get to know them and in my experience "the one" will come along at the very moment you least expect him. I met my boyfriend of over 3 years at a Renaissance Faire (now THERE's a bunch of misfits!). For a couple years before I'd been moping about how I'd never find somebody to love (I know, silly for a 16-17 year old) and the very day before I'd just decided that there was no such thing as true love and I'd better just get on with my life. Well, the very next day I met Jonathan and we've been together ever since. He got me into homesteading- I'd been interested years before as a child but gradually as I got older I didn't think such a lifestyle was really possible! We both will graduate college next year and hope to get started on our "impossible dream" together soon. I wish you lots of luck- remember that you have to shovel a lot of coal to get to the diamonds!

-- Sarah K. (ladynuala@hotmail.com), November 14, 2001.

Yes, Brad, we all aspire to acquire men like you -- the "cook- gardener-seafood-chowder-making" kind -- lucky Maggie was just first in line!

Why doesn't anyone ever ask for the "perfect homesteading woman" on here? I'm sure we have a few....

-- Tracy (trimmer31@hotmail.com), November 14, 2001.

Might I get in line with Stan? darn hit the wrong key. Hey drive on up and ask about my wind genny's & PV's---that'll get a great yap session going........Around here it seems to be "slim pickin's"............might be nice to have someone to share life with!!

-- Jim-mi (hartalteng@voyager.net), November 14, 2001.

Actually, Brad lied - nobody's perfect. So did I - ignore my previous post - I'm almost perfect - my only fault is my excessive modesty.

-- Don Armstrong (darmst@yahoo.com.au), November 15, 2001.

When I first met my darling Brian 18 years ago I liked him and always felt very comfortable around him but was not my type. Wasn't into nice cloth, cut his own hair or covered it with a cap, always drove an old van that had like 300 thousnad miles on it. We spent lots of time together fishing and quiet visits. Well 13 years later and lots of growth on my part, we were at my apartment and he was going to help me move I was so thankful for his friendship and just all of a sudden hugged and layed a big kiss on him and my life changed. Talk about fireworks, Bing Bing Bang !! WE've been married 5 years and if there is such a thing as a soul mate he is mine hefeels the same way about me. We live on our little mini farm that he started with a camper trailer and now we have a sweet little white house that Brian has put every nail in, out buildings , fences and more crittters than you can shake a stick at. I cut his hair now , buy his cloth and am tickled to death over my 86 Chysler that runs like a new car because he is such a good mechanic. I was single for 23 years and he was single for 15. I wanted to find my perfect guy years befor we got together. Brian was well worth the wait. Hope you find yours. Sherry

-- sherry (chickadee259@yahoo.com), November 15, 2001.

Elizabeth -- is sure isn't easy!! I have my place, and I have my plan. I too would like to find someone to share it with, but in the five years I've been country living, I've placed personal ads, gone to rural churches, gone to livestock auctions, gone to all kinds of festivals, let all my family and friends know that finding a country gentleman would be nice (but not a necessity). No luck yet. I'm 50, fat and feisty, with a good sense of humor. I'm intelligent, kind , caring, thrifty and a good cook. But, Oh Well, the exterior package scares them away! So I have pretty much given up and simply do my own thing, when I want and where I want, and don't have to answer to anyone (except the animals!) I think God's plan is for me to be alone.

-- MissJudi (jselig@clemson.edu), November 15, 2001.

well you could take a break from your man search and come spend the winter in Italy helping us out on our small farm. I am serious- if you interested contact me. WHo knows, you may meet some italian farmer guy like I did (heck, you may just steal mine!!! LOL!!)

-- kelly (kellytree@hotmail.com), November 15, 2001.

I'm with Iris. I wished for one on a huge meteor I saw break up one morning on my way to work.

-- Sadge (firesignfarm@hotmail.com), November 15, 2001.

Feistey- you bet ,Kermudgin- yup... Dam, I shure am good--I'll even admit it..Am I lookin'..could be.

-- Jim-mi (hartalteng@voyager.net), November 15, 2001.

OOOOOH! I just loooooooove matchmaking! Stan has some good possiblities girls! He is very funny and seems to be a nice guy! And Don is from Australia where you could have nice weather year round if you were to travel back and forth! Hmmmmmmmm....Jim mi are you a he? Whether he means to be or not he is funny too! Girls....they are out there! I know that my Mom found mine for me almost 18 years ago. He was hired to build a dog run in my back yard. He ended up proposing after only 2 weeks! Never did get the dog run built! We moved out to the country pretty soon after that! Soooooo.......it could happen!

-- Nan (davidl41@ipa.net), November 15, 2001.

Forgot to add....and there are probably plenty more.....Bob is a really nice man too! He has a neat green house and a wonderful compost pile! I saw them on his pictures! OOOOOOOH! This is so romantic!

-- Nan (davidl41@ipa.net), November 15, 2001.

Oh Bruce! How could I forget you out there alone with those cows! Come on girls what could be more romantic than 28 miles from civilization on a big ole farm! Nice start Bruce! All that land and cattle too.

-- Nan (davidl41@ipa.net), November 15, 2001.

Well, you might try looking in Alaska. While the ratio isn't as bad as it used to be (from the guy perspective), once you get out of Anchorage, you will find that most fellas out here know a bit more about homesteading than their tropical counterparts in the lower 48. By the way, Bruce, how do you put up with being so close to town? Here it's 85 miles to the nearest community (pop 659), and 200 miles to the nearest traffic light.

-- Audie (paxtours@alaska.net), November 15, 2001.

Elizabeth, I sure sympathize. How old are you? If I fix you up with somebody around here will you do the same for me? I'm 39, raise horses and work toward self-suffciency on 20 acres in rural Oregon, 30 miles from reasonable sized town, lots of varied interests. I understand that many successful relationships begin from an introdution by a friend... You, or any of the I'm sure fine gentlemen reading this, please feel free to respond. From like-minded friendships it seems like any thing could happen, and I sure know what its like to be working, wanting, waiting and ho

-- Leslie Coray (leslie@webolium.com), November 15, 2001.

Of course, MY problem (hey! is this a boy thread or a girl thread?!?) is that not too many women want to move this far out. Too bad. It's the finest place on earth.

-- Audie (paxtours@alaska.net), November 15, 2001.

Well, I've noticed two posts for "letting your mom find you one!" Mine and Nan's. It took a lot of doing on my mom's behalf but we've been together 7.5 years and married 5 with two wonderful children, a ten acre farmette and lots of work that needs to be done!

And I agree with many of the posts....heck at 19-20, all I was interested in was having fun! Aim for the 27-30 age bracket! The rural church idea doesn't look promising in our neck of the woods. Here the churchs are all very close-knit families and very, VERY few single men. But I do like the auction or feed mill ideas, as well as volunteering for organizations like 4H or FFA.

But most of all, my advise to you is to be true to yourself. To find your perfect match (notice I said "match" and not perfect man, because no one is perfect!), you shouldn't have to change or give up your dreams for him.

One last thing, I can guarantee it that you don't need a man to be happy, but sometimes they are nice to have around.

-- Lisa in WI (lehman16NOSPAM@vbe.com), November 16, 2001.

Lisa your right..and not just at a church....all their activities are for couples, and single folks are not overly welcome. I'm going to steel away some guys wife!......scuse me while I go up chuck......

-- Jim-mi (hartalteng@voyager.net), November 16, 2001.

Come on now Jim-mi! You are trying to impress the women folks. Don't talk about throwing up! Ugh! This matchmaking stuff might be a little harder than I thought! heeheeheehee! But girls...at least he is honest! That is a wonderful quality!

-- Nan (davidl41@ipa.net), November 16, 2001.

Seriously ya'll.....what could hurt to send a few e-mails back and forth and just introduce yourselves. A wonderful way is to be introduced by friends, but let's face it....poor Bruce out in the middle of nowhere is not going to have many opportunities to socialize! E-mail is a safe way to just visit and see if someone is like-minded...then if you think that you might be meant for each other:~)!!!! (I am an incurable romantic!) Then meet in a very public place or something that is safe! You never know who the creeps are, but then again.....you might find a prince too! Mom was sneaky when it came to introducing me to my husband. She hired him to build a dog run for me because if I wasn't interested then I could just pretend like Mom was not fixing us up! Pretty smart woman! Either I got a boyfriend or a dog run out of the deal! She was a bit shocked when we announced our engagement less than a month later. Oh...I don't think that short engagements are a good idea...it worked for us...but certainly not a safe idea! I was just blessed to find mine. (Mom had known him for a year before she introduced us. He worked for the company that built her office complex) So......no matter what....check them out and make a wise decision before making any plans of meeting them in person. I figured that I would add that because I don't want anyone taken advantage of or hurt! I am a romantic, but not stupid! :~)!!!!

-- Nan (davidl41@ipa.net), November 17, 2001.

I have read a lot of posts on this board, and have learned much. I too am always interested in meeting someone that is into the country life. I believe it is hard enough in town let alone out in the boonies. I live in Northern California. It is difficult to have a social life when you are 15-25 miles from town and you work full-time. Once I am home it's over. I think you just have to do activities that will be satisfying with or without someone. What ever you do, you must stay busy. And you HAVE to socialize, you need to be where people get together, church, functions, friends, school.

-- Esther (angelgirly2@hotmail.com), November 24, 2001.

I had to import my husband from (gasp) the big city as all the like- minded souls here were more interested in my farm than me! I'd meet some nice man and we'd talk and he'd ask where I lived. I'd say out on a farm with horses and dang, he'd spend the next three dates saying "oh you got a farm, you know you'd get a lot of money if you'd subdivide it", or "you got any timber on that farm?". So I branched out and re-met a man that I was introduced to ten years before. We were both single and he just appreciates the farm for being a farm, but loves me most and would be happy if I decided to move to the 'burb (not!). Some city men do appreciate the quiet of the country so you can't count all of them out. DH and I have been together six years now and he's made most the improvements here and can cook too! It took a long time though for him to like cats, until I brought Mr. Biggles home three months ago - now they're inseperable. So there's hope out there, you just gotta keep your eyes open. That fella Bruce has possibilites (cows and land and single :>)

-- Cindy (colawson@mindspring.com), November 24, 2001.

The nasty thing I have found about being single and owning a small ranch is when you think you have met Ms. Wonderful, getting something like a prenuptial agreement so that you don't end up back in the city doing the 40 hour a week thing when she finds out that you are not perfect, is mighty difficult.

Also, there are no single ladies out here as I am 90 miles from a shopping mall and 35 miles from a Burger King, McDonalds, or any other fast food and amenities. I have to go to St. Paul or Minneapolis to find somebody to date. Normally the response to my 120 year old farm house if we get past the first date is "When are you going to sell the homestead and buy someplace where we both can live...."

Two years ago I really was thinking I found Ms. Right. She even liked the farmhouse. Then I had an accident with a horse that she had purchased and I ended up in the hospital. After she did chores for me for a day or two, she definately made the decision that farms are nice to see from the road but close up, with the flies and manure, they really stink.

I agree with having to be happy living alone, but the holidays are a bit trying for me.

The movie: Herman U.S.A (which was made about 40 miles away)discusses the problem nicely. However, the movie does not point out that almost all of the marriages that were a result of the street dance shown in the movie have all ended up in divorce.

Anyway, good luck elizabeth.

-- Gary Paul Rush (hpysheep@midwestinfo.com), December 21, 2001.

Hi,

Well Gary, you know that if you find a woman who already owns a farm - which one of ya is gonna sell your place to live with the other one? Or better yet, how ya'll gonna keep both places if they're not close to together? That is a problem when you find a country girl or guy who already has a place..would either one of you want to move or sell? But it seems that there are lots of folks that are single on this forum who are looking for MR. or MS. Right...but are they all too set in their ways or are they convinced they'll never find what they're looking for??? Gotta give a little here and there to make room for someone else...I know I have and it sure was worth it (and I'm one of the absolute worst about wanting to do things MY WAY cause it was MY FARM, and I WORKED FOR IT, blah, blah, blah. But you know what, that don't make it right, nor profitable, nor create one bit of togetherness. So I just had to learn to stand there with my mouth shut and watch...and so what if it (whatever it was) wasn't done the way I did it...the bottom line is -it works. Now I gotta a guy who is fussier than me over our little sick calf - up all night feeding and even washes the calf's face. Ain't love grand? Keep your eyes open, you'll find someone who'll appreciate driving a ways to get a hamburger..but then again, she'll probably want to repaint your house too and move the piggies a little further away from the kitchen - you get my drift? Happy Holidays (Oh heck - Merry Christmas and hope you and your critters see a very prosperous New Year!)

-- Cindy (colawson@mindspring.com), December 21, 2001.

Elizabeth- you have the right idea- start loking among men who are a little older than you. The young ones are not much good for husbands, they need to age a little, just like fine wines and cheese. :-) Really, I'm serious. Males take a lot longer to mature, find one who is already wanting to start a family, older men are gentler and more mellow, and better with kids.

-- Rebekah (daniel1@itss.net), March 01, 2002.

Or find one that was really screwed over by an ex, and has had time to get over it, threat him good, you will have him for life.

-- Thumper/inOKC (slrldr@yahoo.com), March 02, 2002.

Oh Thumper, some typos are ever so much more than others! : ) : )

My wife threats me good every now and then too, usually in relation to something homesteading but she keeps me anyway...

......Alan.

-- Alan (athagan@atlantic.net), March 02, 2002.

Oh that's cute......yeah.......threat him good. I like that ;>)

-- diane (gardiacaprines@yahoo.com), March 03, 2002.

To find someone that likes what you like you have to go the places you like to be and do the things you like to do. There are somethings that are just not debatable. My own non-debatable point was whether he was a Christian or not. That makes the rest slightly easier. Make up a list of non-debatable points. See if that helps.

You've got hang out with people or organizations that will increase the liklihood of a good match. But know what you really want before you go.

-- LBD, Maryland (lavenderbluedilly@hotmail.com), March 04, 2002.

OOOHHHH, I had to read it 4 times before I saw it, I'm so blushing!!!!

I'll just fan myself and pretend its a hot flash.....LOL

And yes it is suposed to say treat, not threat.

Oh well thats a good dose of humility amongst friends!!!!!

-- Thumper/inOKC (slrldr@yahoo.com), March 04, 2002.

Well since Iam a single man who loves the country and has sought Ms right for too many years in vain I suppose my answer would be ADVERTISE! You ladies are the only ones ive seen on the www or anywhere else remotely interested in finding your country living soulmate.

-- steven leak (stevenone@mindspring.com), May 12, 2002.